Hi ladies,
Basically, this is it ladies:
I now have a beautiful 11 week old daughter from a 3 month relationsship last year with a guy in the Army. We split up quit amicably, life went on as normal, we lost touch, but i still had my ex's number till my phone got nicked in a club. I was nearly 5 months gone when I found out, which was a massive shock. I immediately set about trying to find my ex- but without his Army number, very very hard if not impossible. I went to my local Army recruitment office, and they were downright rude as well as really unhelpful. I only have a vague idea where his mum and other close family live (like which street his mum lives in, in a village a few miles away.
So, I went on maternity leave, had my gorgeous daughter with my mum and my best friend with me.
After I had the baby, I started looking for her dad again, and a friend whose husband is in the Navy suggested I try contacting the Army's online padre service, which is available to all serving soldiers and their friends and family. We emailed each other a couple of times,and the padre has been incredibly kind and non judgemental and helpful, and on Friday I finally plucked up the courage to give him the few details for my ex that I have, to see if he can locate him for me. This morning, he emailed me back. He has found my ex, and he is currently half a mile away from my ex in Iraq!!!! He will not go ahead and talk to him without my express permission.
And herein lies the crux of my problem. Do I possibly stir up a huge hornets nest by getting the padre to talk to my ex, or do I just forget the idea, and hope that the ex never finds out another way???
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hi all, new to MN, need some advice, bit of a moral dilemma, LONG post, sorry
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oasisofcalm · 14/07/2008 10:20
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