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I am sooooooooo Bored!

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fairyfly · 27/05/2008 23:09

Every night, put them to bed, cook dinner, then what?

I actually got jealous of two women jogging this evening.

Something has to give soon, i can't bare this lack of entertainment in my life.

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brightwell · 27/05/2008 23:15

My 2 are in bed I was looking forward to settling down with a cup of tea and my book ....no milk! One of the little darlings has had it all.

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fairyfly · 27/05/2008 23:19

Well yes, how many nights can you have a cup of tea and a book and wouldn't you just really love someone to have taken responsibility and bought milk.

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brightwell · 27/05/2008 23:22

I know what you mean, it would be nice to mull the day over with someone & even nicer if there was someone to pop out and get some milk and maybe an eccles cake! Or some other treat.

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OverMyDeadBody · 27/05/2008 23:24

I know how you feel fairyfly, which is why I have to have organised something for the evening at least three days a week.

Do you have friends you could invite round for tea and a chat in the eves? or to watch a dvd?

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shelleylou · 27/05/2008 23:25

I cant argue with that. I was used to spending evenings on my own, untill i spent nearly a week with xp so ds could see him. I now feel lonely and really fed up with it.

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brightwell · 27/05/2008 23:27

I sometimes organise "a take away curry evening" for a group of other mums. I'm the only lone parent so am the one with the baby sitting problems.

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fairyfly · 27/05/2008 23:30

Yes, i make plans, at the moment though they just seem like a means to an end.

People come over, we chat, i feel bored, they go, i feel hassled with responsibility.

I go out in the day, make an effort.

I need something more though, and i am afraid, i think it is, a relationship. Something is missing.

My children are so entertaining, but why is it just me laughing at them, and more to the point why is it them just laughing at me.

This is the shittest bit for me, apart from of course all the wanky practical stuff. Do i have to keep every memory in my own brain?

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OverMyDeadBody · 27/05/2008 23:51

Ok, I really know how you feel. I stayed with my sister and hoer lovely loving partner this weekend, and it really got me down, DS is wonderful and amazing, I have loads of friends I see all the time, lots of sport and other activities, and yet, if I'm honest, there is something missing, and it gets quite lonely inside me, despite not being alone.

I have given up the hope of ever meeting someone that wants to be in a relationship with me. It seems the men I meet only want casual sex, which is getitng a bit boring now tbh.

Damn all the good men for being taken.

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fairyfly · 28/05/2008 00:23

I can't even do the sex bit, it feels wrong, so i don't.

i Have no idea what i am waiting for, or if i am waiting.

I have been on three dates in the last couple of months to see if it was that. But i didn't care. I felt bored.

I want something i cant have, overmydeadbody, i feel the same.

I spent all day with my best couple mate and went home thinking......

Why the hell can somebody not talk about my children like they do together.

That's the bit that is missing.

I'm starting to feel, well i know, it's all my experiences with them.

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MsPontipine · 28/05/2008 01:00

I know x

What about your family? Do they get to share them with you?

Being a lone mum with ds(5) I have grown so much closer to my mum than I was before and she gets to share all the stuff - important firsts (school, plays etc) and every day things too.

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conniedom · 28/05/2008 01:09

What have you done to make you feel happy lately?

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UnderRated · 28/05/2008 02:21

When DS goes to bed, I:

cook, clean, wash up, put toys away
waste time on email, internet
chat on MSN
watch a film/ read

always by myself. I don't mind doing any of those things but day in, day out, it gets rather depressing.

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AMAZINWOMAN · 28/05/2008 08:20

I agree fairyfly, it would be wonderful to have someone who loves your children as much as you, and is every bit as proud of your children as you are. Someone who is really, really interested in the little things that your children say and do-not just a polite interest.

It doesn't even have to be a relationship, as Im sure that can bring just as many problems.

I like the idea of adopting a granny-someone who appreciates family and can give support.

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fedupofbeingfedup · 29/05/2008 12:32

Thank god its not just me who is bored. My kids woke me up at 6am this morning, its half term, I dont drive, am absolutely skint, highlight of my day so far is going to the local shop, I just sit here looking at random stuff on the internet, and staring out of the window, kids are playing, housework is all done and its only 12.30pm, I am not working until sat and its driving me crazy.........

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fedupofbeingfedup · 29/05/2008 12:33

And on top of all that I am still in love with my sons dad after 4 years of being apart....oh my god, he is the first thing I think of in the morning and the last thing I think of at night.........I cant get him out of my head, ever...

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