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How to find her dad

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jemimapants · 16/04/2008 19:31

This is my first post on mumsnet and I'm not sure anyone can help but it's worth a try...........My little girl (11 weeks) is the result of an ill advised one night stand last year when I was going through a tough time, it was a stupid thing to do especially without contraception though of course I don't regret a second of it now as my daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me. The problem is her dad doesn't know she exists and now I can't find him, I told him I was pregnant at 6 weeks and that I'd call him back if I went to term but when I did his number didn't work and at his work number someone else answered and said he'd left the company and he didn't know how to contact him, I don't know this guys surname and don't know what to do. What on earth am I going to tell her when she grows up? and what if there's a medical emergency?

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fizzledizzle · 16/04/2008 19:37

hi jemimapants.the electoral register might be somewhere to start (if you know where he lives)i have to say that if he really wanted to be involved he would of been in contact. i have been in a similar position (was in a short term relationship with ds1 father)and if he doesnt want to be involved unfortunately there is nothing you can do about it. You may just have to accept that he isnt going to be a part of your lives (hard i know)

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bubblagirl · 16/04/2008 19:58

Well you could call his work back as if they knew who he was and the fact he'd left surely they would have a last name to give you. Then you can try phone book you may find a relative who could help.Good luck.

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Youcannotbeserious · 16/04/2008 21:10

I'd go back to his place of work and try to talk to HR / his boss...

It's likely someone knows some personal details for him or where he's working now...

Not sure what the legalities of this are, though, so might be worth checking with CAB first?

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