Sharing a child with someone who's betrayed you.

[Cherryplum88]

My LOs Dad left me when I was pregnant and for another woman , who he's now got pregnant.
I've always welcomed him to have contact with lo, but after he started lying about things and making out I was a wicked witch for putting boundaries in around the contact, I cut communication to a bare minimum. He was trying to paint this picture of me that I wasn't letting him see his daughter Nd even started shouting in the street once "I love my daughter and I will see her!! Even though he's always seen her since she was born and I had to ask him numerous times to give me 2 days.
He just couldn't grasp that as a newborn you can't just hand babies over like dolls. Plus the fact he moved 2 hours away when she was born didn't help!!'

This was my first baby And I think what he's put me through is horrific.

I just want to ask people who've been through divorce/separation... does it get easier having to still see that person? The anger and betrayal you feel?

I feel a lot of grief and anger and just hope in time it will ease and I can enjoy my life without feeling stressed and angry.

[unicornsarereal72]

It eases in time. You will feel raw and betrayed. We all have a similar story to tell. My ex was furious I but boundaries in place he wanted to come and go as he wished. And fit the children around his social life. It took time but I stuck to eow and if he changed the plan he missed out. Your baby is tiny so the circumstance are different for you.

I'm a few years down the line. I wish him and his girlfriend (ow) the best of luck. And have very little to do with him accept drop off and pick up times.

[Cherryplum88]

Thanks...
it's made feel terrible and second guess myself etc... but I know that despite what he did I always let my lo see Dad. It was almost as if he wanted me to say "go away you can't see her."

Like you in time hopefully I'll be happy again without this stress and it's only going to be a drop off and pick up situations.

[Happycat1212]

I hate it, I hate that I’m forced into seeing and communicating with my ex because we share children, I wish there was a way I never had to see him again. It’s not easy, it hasn’t got better for me personally

[Cherryplum88]

@Happycat1212 I'm sorry :(
How long has it been?

[Happycat1212]

4 years but it’s hard when you feel like that person is still controlling you through the kids, and if I reduce contact to a minimum he refuses to see the children as he says I’m “in a mood” it’s really difficult I wish I had a middle person so I didn’t have to deal with him at all.