My little one is almost 9 months old, thanks to the pandemic my partner has been home for basically the entirety of his life (give or take a month).
My issue is that he literally does nothing for him. My son is quite ‘high needs’, very demanding, doesn’t sleep well (and is even worse due to the 8 month sleep regression) and I’m getting to a point now where I’m just done.
I have to force him to help out in the night, my son wakes up usually between 5-6am, and not ONCE has his dad woke up to help him in the morning. He’s lay in bed way past 10.30am probably 20/30 times since Christmas, once until literally 4.30pm.
I don’t mind so much when he has been working as he needs to concentrate but he’s been on furlough this whole time and still won’t pull his weight.
I feel terrible for my son, he deserves so much more, and I’m really struggling now myself to give him the attention he wants/needs as I’m so exhausted.
I’ve been unwell for the last week (covid), sleeping terribly, up all night, baby has also been very very unsettled and he’s not once offered to give me a hand.
Instead he went out drinking last night with his friends (I have literally had covid), came in blackout drunk and has been incapable of helping all night and is now sat vomiting in the bathroom (he is 27) This isn’t an unusual occurrence either.
I’m so unhappy, before our son he was the total opposite of this. We were together 6 years and he doted on me. He was so attentive and caring, I don’t know what has happened.
I don’t want to break up our relationship for the sake of my son but I’m struggling. He makes it feel like it’s my fault I’m annoyed at him and he’s ‘done nothing wrong and it’s your fault for waking up so early’
Please tell me it isn’t just me.
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Mamabear931 · 11/04/2021 05:46
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