Hi everyone, first time poster so be gentle with me! It might be a bit long too so sorry about that and thanks to anyone who reads it all.
I’m a single dad with a 3 year old girl, after my beautiful DW sadly passed away last summer (fuck cancer).
Things are generally going pretty well, I’ve had amazing support from family and friends (allowing for covid obviously), DD is totally gorgeous and adorable (except when she is tantrumming and being a pain in the bum!), just so full of life and enjoying nursery and making friends etc, so I’m not overly worried about things.
But there are a few minor things that normally I’d have discussed with DW, obviously that’s not an option so though I’d post a message on here. DW used to use this place, which is how I know about it, she’d never tell me her username though!
Number one is toothbrushing and I guess by extension wanting me to do things for her that I know she can do herself. We’ve defo gone though phases with this, at first she loved it, then we had to watch the Hey Duggee song every time to get her to do it, then she learned to brush her own teeth and was happy doing that. But in the last few weeks she’s really resisted it and most of the time asks me to do it, which I cave on just so I can get her to bed or out of the house to nursery. So I guess my question is should I be caving or should I be firm with her and tell her to brush her own teeth, even if it causes a tantrum and poorly brushed teeth?
Number two is diet. She is really resisting vegetables at the moment, she used to love broccoli, sweet corn, peas and carrots but won’t eat them now. She does eat a lot of fruit though so she is getting some good stuff inside her, but do I keep pushing veg at her until she eats it again?
And number three is sleeping related. Every night for the last four months or so she has come into my bed to sleep at some point during the night, after going to sleep in her own bed. The time varies, occasionally it’s six in the morning, occasionally 10:30 at night, but I guess its normally about 1:30ish. At first she used to wriggle really badly and keep me awake but I got annoyed with her and now she is very still. In fact it’s got the point that I barely wake up, she just climbs into bed, we cuddle and are both back asleep in about 30 seconds and sleep through till morning, so it’s not causing any real issues with work or anything. Now I’ve let this slide as its been a difficult time for us both and actually I miss cuddling my DW loads so it’s nice to snuggle with DD. But how long do I let it go on for? It’s going to be messy whenever I start making her go back into her own bed but do I need to start doing it sooner rather than later?
That’s it, thanks for any advice!
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Slackbladder22 · 20/01/2021 11:08
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