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Any single Mum's by choice?

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Gidget19 Mon 11-Jan-21 15:42:13

Hello, I am single and expecting my twins in a few weeks. I decided to stop waiting for a partner to come along and go it alone.

Anyone else in the same boat?

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IHaveBrilloHair Mon 11-Jan-21 16:46:44

No, but I've raised Dd alone since she was 6 weeks old, no input, or financial help from her Dad, no long term/live in partner and Dd is now 19.

niclw Thu 14-Jan-21 18:12:22

Congratulations 💐 I had my DS by iui with donor sperm. He is now 2 years old. I gave up trying to find a partner too and decided to go down this route. I'm so glad that I did x

solomumbyDC Fri 15-Jan-21 09:06:40

Plenty, but a bit scattered: welcome to MN!

DressingGown87 Fri 15-Jan-21 21:07:19

I fell pregnant last February, we had stopped dating before I found out. I told him at 12week due to previous losses, and we agreed I would do it alone, as he no intention of being in her life. She is now 12weeks old, and I’ve been alone throughout.

I won’t lie, it’s been tough, but it’s so worth it. You get every cuddle, smile, bad day and good day. It’s your way, it’s your routine, which I see as easier than trying to coparent with someone who has no interest.

Your not alone. Good luck with your twins.

solomumbyDC Sat 16-Jan-21 12:32:33

Start reaching out to others nearby before your twins are born if you can, via ante-natal class / community midwives & health visitors. Find your nearest Twins club - all probably on Zoom nowadays, but they will be invaluable the day you need a shoulder to lean on, someone to bring in a pack of nappies or whatever. Where are you located? Is there a local Mutual Aid group who could pair you up with a buddy for the first 6 weeks, for moral upport as well as practical?

Gidget19 Sat 16-Jan-21 12:56:10

Thanks for all your replies.

I’ve been in touch with one twin group. Seems so odd now that we can’t go anywhere and actually meet in person. I’d have joined all the groups going ordinarily. I’m South East London. I hadn’t thought about a mutual aid group so will look into that.

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Bouncemeup Wed 20-Jan-21 06:42:58

Single mum by choice here, DS is 2 and currently trying with the same donor sperm for my second baby. My DS gives me a lot of joy and jokes! Congrats on your twins

Hotdrop1 Tue 26-Jan-21 20:24:50

I'm an SMC of a 14 year old boy - best decision I ever made. I went to a Donor Conception Network meeting when he was about three and met a mum with a boy of the same age and we all get on like a house on fire still. Both boys are totally unfazed by having donor dads - and about having loads of half siblings mainly based in the US. They just view it as something interesting about themselves. Good luck with your twins - amazing! - my friend (not a SMC) who had twins found twin mother and baby groups really helpful. smile

Gidget19 Tue 26-Jan-21 21:08:25

@Bouncemeup @Hotdrop1 it’s so great to hear your positive stories. I know it will be hard but totally rewarding and it’s lovely to hear just how wonderful other people’s experiences have been. I’ve already bought a few books about single parents and donor fathers for when they are older.

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Hope4theBestPlan4theWorst Tue 26-Jan-21 21:24:32

My best friend has twins by a sperm donor ( basically a male friend she slept with and she got twins so was super happy!)
She belongs to Tamba

Rebranded now I think 🤔

It's hard with covid going on but usually there's lots of things
Going on and meet ups and twins groups


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