Hello all, this may be a long one so I apologise in advance.
My daughter (who is 3) visits her dad 3 weekends a month. He's is uncle dad, Disneyland daddy, doesn't implement discipline or boundaries, does EVERYTHING for her (even climbing the climbing frame for her for f sake)
She doesn't have to lift a finger. She has an AWFUL diet from the moment he picks her up in the am.
She's an absolute mess when I get her home. Screaming and tantrums the moment she gets through the door because I ask her to take off her coat and shoes (she knows how to do this, she does it very well after I've spent days getting her out of the Disneyland daddy mindset)
She's also on a gluten free diet because there's a HUGE influence on her behaviour and moods when she has eaten gluten (the moment I changed her diet it was like she was a different child, so calm and happy, could think clearly and play by herself, less needy) but this all goes in the bin as soon as Saturday comes. So when she comes home Sunday evening Monday and Tuesday are spent with a very very unhappy, irritable child because she's had gluten, sugar and no discipline or real parenting all weekend.
All week, every week is spent me doing the parenting, having it thrown back in my face and then repeating the same sh** storm again the next week.
My beautiful, smart and sweet loving daughter is being ruined by a narcissistic, vindictive tw** who clearly thinks he is doing a good job because the moment you try and talk to him about anything he immediately goes on the defence and tries to turn it around back onto you.
I'm at my wit's end now, I'm dreading as she gets older, stronger and more stubborn to think that how her father is raising her is the real world with no concequences. And that mummy is just a cow who tells her off all the time!
Please tell me it gets better? Are there others going through this too? Feel totally and utterly overwhelmed by this all and don't know how to help my daughter understand that it's because I love her that there is discipline and boundaries in life.
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Anonymous1123456 · 13/12/2020 19:05
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