DS will be 5 in just over a week. His dad, for the first 4 years of his lift didn’t show an interest in him He was abusive towards me and wanted me to either abort our son or place him up for adoption.
When me and my current partner were pregnant and he realised our son had a man in his life he decided to take us to court (he didn’t want to be on the birth certificate when DS was born but suddenly 4 years later felt ready for parental responsibility)
He is bitter that DS has a great relationship with my DP.
DS stays with his biological dad every other Friday - Sunday. This year his birthday falls on a Sunday, the Sunday his dad has him. I’ve asked if he can be brought home at 1pm as opposed to 4. ExP won’t budge, no earlier as they have “plans”. Not sure what plans as we are in a national lockdown. ExP has said no earlier than 3. I have spoken tk a family law solicitor who has said in the court order birthdays should be split; and if DS is waking up with his dad on his birthday morning then bringing him back at 3 would not be a fair split on our side.
there’s not enough time to have a solicitor send a letter out about this, and I’m worried if I tell him
I’ve spoken to a solicitor I’ll ruffle too many feathers.
DS doesn’t like going to see his Dad as he has a little brother here and is always afraid of missing out on any fun we have while he’s gone. I assure him we don’t do anything and while he’s gone I just clean the house. He has no friends near his dads house and he comes home miserable after spending the whole weekend watching tv. There’s nothing I can do about it. It’s so hard for me to watch him go to the same mans house who wished him dead as a baby.
I just want to celebrate my sons birthday with my partner and our other son. I want to see him enjoy his presents and have plenty of time to play with them before the bedtime routine starts for school the next day.
Is there anything I can do re his birthday? I would have happily compromised for 2pm but he won’t budge on that either.
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Whatthedoodle · 13/11/2020 07:54
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