Hi, just looking for some advice about how to go about dealing with my son's dad refusing to give him his preventer inhaler. He was prescribed this earlier on in the year, as Covid-19 was becoming more prominent in the UK, just before lock down. I took him for his asthma review and queried how to manage his asthma should he become ill with the virus, and how it may affect him. He's been hospitalised before as a baby due to suffering with a cold that triggered asthma symptoms, but could not be diagnosed due to his age. He's 6 years old now , the nurse advised he use a preventer to reduce his asthma symptoms when he does catch a cold, which can become overwhelming and I am proficient enough in managing his illnesses with inhalers as advised by staff in hospital etc.
I explained to his dad that he would need this new preventer each morning and evening as prescribed, but he messaged back that he doesn't wish to follow the advice. He has asthma also and used his experience as a child to justify his reasoning, he told me that his doctor told him eventually that to stop using the inhalers altogether. He believes that his lungs will benefit from not taking the preventer inhaler as he grows and rather, use his reliever as and when needed. I do understand that committing to administering long-term medicines to children can be daunting, but as trainee-medical professional myself I do think the preventer is the best course of action for my son. He resides with his dad 40% of the time and so I cannot be the one to ensure his preventer inhaler is taken every day. I provided one to his dad and informed him that I would be giving it to him, I know that he doesn't follow the same advice, which my son confirms.
I've noticed my son becoming more wheezy than usual when I pick him up from school after he has stayed with his dad. His dad was emotionally abusive and controlling and since our separation a few years ago, it has been extremely difficult to agree on many things, and the conflict has become too much that I now get anxiety about having to communicate with him about the smallest of things; I end up always having to do what he says to avoid future issues or verbal abuse. I don't know how to approach the subject again. I'm aware that I can provide him with resources, I've already told him he is welcome to speak to a nurse or GP himself, but at the end of it all, if he chooses not to give the inhaler, it will be our son who could suffer, and I cannot physically do anything about that. I do plan to take my son back to the GP to query the recent wheezing. I wondered if anyone else has had a similar experience or just some ideas? Sorry for the lengthy post!
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mamacirca2013 · 19/10/2020 17:34
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