I split from DS' dad when he was 5, he is now 12. My ex was a pretty awful partner and hasn't been a great dad either but I totally accept DS needs his Dad and I've done whatever I can to facilitate that, I've always been pleasant and nice about him to DS smoothed over his let downs and inadequacies, kept the fact that he provides zero financial help a separate issue, and included him in everything that I can (parents eves, key decisions etc) is that he feels included.
He did live close by and at times has barely seen his son for weeks on end. He moved away 4 months ago for work.
DS has always idolised his dad, and that's fine by me- I feel it's important.... Recently they have fallen out. I don't want to be too outing but ex said some stuff that understandably upset DS. DS really took it all to heart and didn't want to see his dad. Ex has apologised, but not in a meaningful way IMO because he has refused to acknowledge that he genuinely upset DS.
Anyway, DS is now saying he doesn't want to see his dad. I just don't know how to handle this. His dad will hit the roof, he will likely come round and insist we let him in so he can talk to DS. On one hand I accept that more talking is needed to sort this out.
On the other hand I don't want to force DS to see his dad and I want him to feel I've got his back. His dad isn't great at listening and tends to shout and although he wouldn't hit anyone he can be loud and intimidating.
My husband is worried that he will be incredibly angry.
I just don't know how to handle this.
Can anyone offer any advice please?
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12yo DS refusing to see his Dad, can anyone guide me through this please
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Chaotic45 · 16/09/2020 18:30
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