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School correspondence

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Chucklecheeks01 · 27/08/2020 09:02

Is there any legislation that compels the school to send correspondence to both parents? I keep being told to pass things on or ask my EXH as he keeps changing it to him. He is abusive and we have no direct communication.

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Frlrlrubert · 27/08/2020 09:07

Not that I'm aware of. Though lots of our parents have more than one email address attached to a pupil and we send information to both.

It's worth discussing with the school. We have various notes on the system like 'do not contact dad', for situations like this.

BuddhaAtSea · 27/08/2020 09:09

Both me and exH receive school communication via email. The term reports are given directly to the child, and she brings them home.
I would have thought it’s normal to send emails to both parents, why wouldn’t it be?

Doyoumind · 27/08/2020 09:13

All communication from my dc's school comes to both me and ex. He ignores it all but that's another story. If you are the resident parent, you should be the main point of contact but the school should also include your ex. It's not your job to keep him informed of everything. It's theirs.

FatThinFatThin · 27/08/2020 09:13

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Doyoumind · 27/08/2020 09:14

I would make a formal complaint if they don't sort it out, actually.

Chucklecheeks01 · 27/08/2020 09:18

Thank you. They have a copy of the court order stating that they should send all correspondence to both parents but they say they only have to send to one. I'll complain again.

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NorthernSpirit · 27/08/2020 13:49

My OH has a very high conflict EW who as the RP automatically receives all school communication.

He wants to be involved, the mother won’t pass on any information on at all.

Primary school were great, all info was passed onto him.

The secondary school won’t add him to the list, despite asking to be added numerous times. Each time he’s told only one email address can be held and that’s the RP. He’s complained to the head, next step is the LA.

He’s not given any information at all. The school won’t give him information on parents evenings etc. The mother refuses to pass the info on.

It’s appalling IMO. The only people to suffer are the kids.

Lonecatwithkitten · 27/08/2020 17:41

Schools have clear responsibility to communicate directly with everyone with parental responsibility. This document makes it very clear, you may need to remind school that this is a legal responsibility.

NorthernSpirit · 27/08/2020 17:57

@Lonecatwithkitten thank you. I’ll pass that on. He’s gone through 2 years on being over looked by the school, being told there is nothing they can do. This is very useful.

Lonecatwithkitten · 27/08/2020 21:59

@NorthernSpirit I am glad it is of help I often see you on threads though sometimes we have a difference of opinion.
Though whatever has happened in my relationship with my ExH he is my DD's father and I have ensured that school communicates directly with him.

NorthernSpirit · 27/08/2020 22:02

@Lonecatwithkitten thank you, appreciate that. Just wants best for the children.

CaptainCarp · 27/08/2020 22:11

@Lonecatwithkitten hopefully your link will also help the OP to make school send it to both of them.

OP good luck in getting the school to send it to both of you so you won't have to interact with him more than necessary.

DP had issues with nursery & school not giving him any information even though he requested it multiple times. Another ex that won't pass things on. DC doesn't go to school at the moment but if ex stops homeschooling & new school doesn't "comply" he can tell them.

Chucklecheeks01 · 28/08/2020 08:36

@Lonecatwithkitten thats brilliant thank you. I've just e mailed the school with the link giving them 48 hours to explain why they consistently fail to do as stated. If i dont get a response ill involve the governors.

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FatherB · 28/08/2020 14:19

Please update what happens @Chucklecheeks01 it would be useful to see if the school sort themselves out.

Augustbreeze · 28/08/2020 17:37

@Chucklecheeks01 are you in Scotland or Leicestershire? I ask because if you're elsewhere it's still holiday time until at least Tuesday (depending on their training days) and the school can't be expected to reply to you within 48 hrs if no one's there.

It's also a weekend.....

DrMadelineMaxwell · 28/08/2020 17:48

Bank holiday weekend at that!
I'd give until Wednesday at least.

Chucklecheeks01 · 28/08/2020 18:14

They've been back all week and I've given them business days so not.includong the bank holiday weekend

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Chucklecheeks01 · 28/08/2020 18:15

not including

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