I split up with my DS father six years ago now, he's been with the same woman since who is so unfriendly and rude towards my son and has two of her own children who live with my ex.
A bit of context into his character. My ex moved 200 miles away from us yet has lied on an ongoing basis to the courts and csa. Earns "£5k" a year self employed despite new cars every six months and a two story house extension, exotic holidays.... so he doesn't have to pay for our son. He applied to stop me moving by making a court application saying I didn't have enough friends, only sees our son in the school holidays. It was his turn to have DS at Easter for one week and he refused saying "Covid" meant he shouldn't collect him. He then said he would have him for a Minimum of one month or until lockdown ends - which he knew I would refuse and is against the court order (which he made). He goes between calling every day for a week to not calling my son for a month. My son has aspergers and he refuses to believe it. When my son spends time with his father he won't speak to me for approx a week each time he returns home.
I had a call from social services today to say my ex has reported me for travelling to my mums house in lockdown and I had put my son at risk.
I have to work from home and also have chrones disease so needed the extra support.
Social services have told him to take the matter up with the police as they don't have Welfare concerns.
My son is distressed at the thought of going to his father and the routine is a struggle because of his autism.
This behaviour is typical of my ex as I sent him a message raising concerns about his partner and said I would report her to the relevant authorities if her behaviour continues.
This has gone on and on for years and I feel like there's no escape. He's now saying he will see our son in the summer. He's meant to have him for 1 week and then two weeks at the end. He's now saying he wants him for the whole time or nothing. Last summer he didn't return him for a week after the court order stated and I was so distressed. He cuts off contact when my son is with him.
Does this constitute as harassment? He set the order yet refuses agreed contact, doesn't return my son when he should and then demands a whole month plus which he knows I would never allow.
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cookiesmumma · 09/07/2020 19:58
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