Hi guys I thought I would start a convo where we could share what is on our mind and what worries we have over being a single parent or parenting in general, and then we can see things in a new perspective. You can add something as often as you want if you need to.
I will start-
I get worried that my baby won't love me as much as I love her and she will never know how I really feel about her because I want her to truly feel loved, as I never felt that way from my family so it means a lot to me for her to know it and I struggle with figuring out how to communicate it with her at this age.
Another worry I have is that she wont like doing the things I liked doing as a child and then I won't know how to keep her happy because she might want to do things I can't teach her or express enthusiasm for. But that is a bit irrational, I know, because she already loves drawing and dancing which are two of my passions!
A third worry I have is being a hypocrite because I want her to eat healthy but since I had her I've been stuffing my face with crisps and take away (just because it's easier when time is short) and I worry how will I teach her the importance of heating a healthy balanced diet if I'm not showing her the good example just because of the time (and energy) it takes to whip up decent food! I don't have any photos of the good balanced diet I had pre pregnancy! Similar to that I want to teach her how not to hoard but there seems to be so much stuff that gets thrown at your house by others when you have a child (just need to learn to say no and be okay with her having less than commercialism tells us we need!!).
Another worry is that she will make the same mistakes I've made with money, career and relationships and I won't be able to stop her (but she does listen to me, so that's a positive sign!).
Finally, i really worry about the relationships in my family and how that will be a template for her and i worry that she will find it uncomfortable that we never meet my relatives (who never see each other- it's just me that goes round making the effort with them all) all at once under the same roof and she has to forge a lot of one-on-one relationships with others and if this will affect her identity. Hoping to find a community where she will learn the importance of family and coming together.
Think that's all mine and thank you for reading if you got this far. :)
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Welikebeingcosy · 24/06/2020 21:33
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