To summarise, I left DS father when I was pregnant with DS due to emotional abuse. Ex had little contact with DS until he was 2 (his choice). We've slowly built up contact since then.
DS turned now 4. Ex has DS every second weekend for 2 nights, and bit extra in holidays. We are hoping to put together our contact calendar for next year soon without solicitor involvement (we used solicitors last year due to ex being unreasonable in email correspondence).
Ex has suddenly sprung on me that he'd like DS to stay on a Thursday night every week. As well as increased holiday time.
Had anticipated extra holiday time which is fine. However the travel time between our homes is currently 60-90 minutes (and involves dreaded m25). I don't see that a Thursday night stay would be beneficial to DS. By the time ex got DS back to his it would be time for supper, bath and bed. They'd have to leave early the next morning to ensure he wasn't late for school. I feel the disruption to DS and the extra travel is disproportionate to the time he will have with his father (who is likely to outsource some of the taxi-ing to his parents).
Am thinking ex could take DS to a club/swimming (if things ever get back to normal) and then out for supper locally instead? Which would give them time together but reduce the travel time? Or offer more time in the holidays? I don't know. But a mid week stay over just seems ill thought through at this stage?
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msatlantis · 01/06/2020 14:35
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