Hi all. I separated from my husband about a year ago now, he was emotionally abusive, everything had to be his way, and I did 99% of everything child related up to that point. Fast forward to now-my eldest is constantly playing me off against his dad. As soon as I tell him to come off his electronics, do some school work, come for a walk, anything he doesn’t want to do I get a torrent of abuse and told he hates me and wants to go to his dads. I can’t really discipline him as the things I would have done previously (limit screen time, remove pocket money etc) have no meaning as his dad lets him do exactly what he wants, and buys him whatever he wants. I have tried to speak to his dad about his behaviour, but he just says he’s fine when he’s there. He says he will back me up, but within 5minutes of being at his dads he is back on electronics or whatever I had banned him from.
Any advice? I feel like I can’t come down too hard on my son as he will just refuse to see me (he comes to mine reluctantly anyway) and then he will only have his dads influence, but if I don’t try and enforce some boundaries, I’m totally failing him as a parent. Any suggestions? Anyone in the same boat?
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Mindmedley · 12/05/2020 11:23
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