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Finally the clouds seems to clear!

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tetti Thu 13-Sep-07 21:01:40

A few weeks ago(must be coming up to 4 weeks now),when my partner of 12 years told me he wanted to separate I felt my whole world was falling apart.I didn't know what to do,and at one point I was feeling like just taking my daughter and go back to my native country,felt like there was nothing left for me here.My ex wanted me to move there with our daughter too,said she'd have the chance to have a much betetr life there (true,very true,but I also felt it would have been an easy escape for him in that he wouldn't have had to take on the same responsibility as he would have to do living in the same country as us!)
I was totally heartbroken,soo confused and couldn't get much lower.

Now I'm moving into a nice new home with my daughter(away from this pokey old flat!),and best of all,my feelings for him seems to have changed.I must've had my rose tinted spectacles on before.
Now I can so clearly see the things that were wrong in our relationship,and I can see his weaknesses and faults so clearly,and boy am I relieved that I don't have to put up with his behaviour towards me anymore!
He dragged me down,I was so confident before I met him,when I was with him he broke that confidence down year by year.
Sure,we had our good times,and I really did love him,but at times he did treat me like a complete doormat.I look forward to becoming that confident person again and to re discover who I really am,as so much of my personality and individuality kind of got lost during our relationship.There is a light at the tunnel after all!:-)

zmandaz Thu 13-Sep-07 21:06:44

Congratulations, I hope you have a happy future together in your new home! It's really good to hear when things work out well for people. It makes me feel that things can get better.grin

charliecat Thu 13-Sep-07 21:11:23

Glad to hear it
It is nice to hear when things are looking up!

turquoisenights Fri 14-Sep-07 00:12:55

happy for you tetti

Tinkerbel5 Fri 14-Sep-07 15:31:12

good for you tetti, glad that you have found yourself again, sounds like you have your confidence back which is great news

allgonebellyup Fri 14-Sep-07 16:12:11

God i wish i could have that!!
i do have my rose tinted glasses on and i cant get over him yet.

almostmidnight Fri 14-Sep-07 22:17:49

Hi Tetti, glad to hear things are going well. I have to say I am feeling kind of the same too although it took me a few weeks longer than you to see it all. I look at him now and wonder why?!?!?!? Anyhow, have been getting chatted up on Facebook. Does wonders for the ego. Good luck in your new home xxxx smile

tetti Sat 15-Sep-07 17:32:12

For me,what did it was when he came back "home"(we're all moving out in 2 weeks from our old place),and had a go at me for not washing his clothes!!!
What? Excuse me,but I am your EX girlfriend,if you want your bloody clothes washed you know where the washing machine is mate!:-)
He also asked me why I don't just go out and pick up a bloke to relieve the stress that I am under!!!(I could've slapped him!What a blooming cheek! Maybe because that is what he's doing,jumping into the arms of every woman that he comes across.Well,each to their own)
He also snapped(well,shouted) at our daughter for no good reason at all,it was completely uncalled for.
It just made me realised that I almost pitied him,he clearly has some real problems that he has to deal with,I am just happy that our days of living together are over,and that I've FINALLY seen him for what he is.Don't get me wrong,he is the father of my child,and I'll never badmouth him to her.But I am glad that I now will have the chance to eventually find someone who can appreciate me and treat me the way that I do deserve to be treated.

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