There is a bit of a long back story to this - but I'm looking for some advice.
My DS's father was very emotionally and financially abusive throughout our marriage and I left him when DS was 3 weeks old after he threatened to take him to Tunisia (where he's from) so I left. I went to court for protective orders etc. He never contested me having full custody and asked for 2 hours per week contact, which the courts ordered must be supervised. My dad agreed to supervise and he has done since.
My ex-husband is self-employed and swindles his finances so he pays me less than £10 a week, I've asked for more directly to him and through my local MP but to no avail. I have been travelling about 15 miles round trip for his weekly visits, so I emailed him 2 years ago and said I couldn't afford to keep travelling as the child maintenance didn't even cover our travel, let alone cover the things that I actually needed the money for!
Courts said he needed to go to parenting classes before they even could consider him having unsupervised contact. He lied in court twice that he had been, but it turned out he hadn't. Anyway, he's continued seeing our son for 2 hours once a fortnight, whilst having his luxury holidays and living his life.
Ive just had enough, he doesn't do anywhere near enough for our son and doesn't even try to make it better - like attending parenting classes or doing more build their relationship. I'm now moving even further away from where the supervised contact takes place, and I'm wondering, can I just stop contact? I'm the one who facilitates everything (like I came up with ideas on where contact could take place, my ex husband doesn't care about what our son might like to do). I want to email my ex husband and say that this supervised contact with my dad isn't sustainable, he needs to come up with some better options. I don't want to be the one who stops my son seeing his father, but I really feel I'm the only one putting in the effort here. Advice welcome!
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Rvrob22 · 04/01/2020 10:04
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