Hi all my DD is 1. Her father and I have never been together since the day she was born ( separated when pregnant ) but has been in an out of her life for a year. All on his terms when he can be bothered showing up which is a measly hour or so every week ( if he comes ). I had to stop contact taking place in my house as he was showing signs of anger towards DD that I didn't like and to be honest I knew meeting in a public place would be better and that no harm would come to her as contacts always supervised until he changes his attitude so that's what we have been doing for the past few months, anyway I gave him the option to come and see DD on Christmas Day but he said no and either I take her to his house on Boxing Day so ALL his family could see her or he brings ALL his family to mine , basically I had 2 choices so I said no I wasn't bringing her up as to be honest his mother and father haven't bothered in the slightest to visit their grandchild or have any kind of contact with her in 9 months and his whole family would be there which would be overwhelming for my DD as she is just a baby and doesn't actually know any of them. They have always been welcome just shown no interest. And second of all as I didn't have an option to say no I agreed to his mum and dad coming to my house on Boxing Day but I know I'm going to feel uncomfortable in my own house and I know what he is like he will turn up with other family members too. My DD cries enough with him and it's just going to really unsettle her. In his eyes they have a right to see DD at Christmas even if nobody has bothered all year round. AIBU to feel this way? Would you just ride it out and go with the flow or say no?. I've already said to him it's his fault as if he had been a caring daddy with her he would have been able to take DD on her own up to his family's on Boxing Day instead of losing patience with her and making her scream uncontrollably in his presence.
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