Court / Child Arrangement Order

[singlemamaandstressed]

Hi, I'm new to Mumsnet & this is my first post so hoping some of you can offer some advice/guidance, reassurance, anything really as feeling so emotional these days.
I separated from my ex partner when our daughter was just 2 months old but despite us separating & him not playing a very active part in the parenting role I tried to ensure my daughter still had a relationship with her dad. He had regular contact until May this year when he threatened to come & take her from my parents care. I sought legal advice & was advised that I was within my rights to suspend contact at that time & to prompt him to attend mediation (he had already failed to attend mediation in February, which he initiated!). Anyway he finally got around to attending a MIAM appointment in July & we had a joint appointment booked for September, however he has since cancelled mediation & submitted court application. The first hearing is due to take place in a few weeks time & I'm feeling sick to my stomach about what decisions may be made that are out of my control. Can anyone give any guidance about what a court will deem as reasonable access. Daughter is almost 2 years of age & hasn't seen her dad for 6 months. I am looking to propose contact starting at 2 hours every other Saturday with a view of building on that after 6 months. I know ex isn't going to think that is enough but would that seem reasonable to a judge? Any feedback would be greatly received.

[Emma861]

Hi,

Similar time fram away from dad, 21 months old. Court ordered as follows:

6 hours every saturday for 6 weeks,

then wednesday evening and saturday day for 6 hours for 6 weeks

Then saturday morning until sunday morning for 3 months And wednesday night.

Then every other weekend friday until Monday and every wednesday overnight.

Whole order was over 9 months.

[Emma861]

Sorry, the 2 nights was over 6 months

[Nanny15]

My son was 18 months when we went to court, we did staggered contact 2 days a week first week 2 hours with supervision 2nd week should have been 2 hrs without supervision but ds was still really upset so did more supervised visits when he was ok to leave he did 4 hours 10-2 then after that and still ongoing its 10-4 2 days a week and thats it. If extra time is wanted we are to arrange ourselves but its not happened. Ds is very clingy to me gets upset with strangers so the time works for us all, ds is now 2.