HI I was wondering if anyone could offer me some advice on how to handle a situation with the minimum fuss and stress
I have two children (5 and 10) and have been divorced from their Father for 4 years now, we have a 50:50 custody arrangement.
My parents have just booked a holiday next year and want the kids and myself to join them for the week as well as my boyfriend who I’ve been with for around a year, he’s met the kids and we spend time together regularly.
However, my ex-husband has not met myboyfiend and I’m pretty sure he is going to react in a negative way to this as we don’t really agree on most things including the fact that I have a boyfriend. We recently had a dispute where I needed someone to collect the kids from school on one of my days due to a one off work commitment, I asked the my ex-husband and he was unable to; so my boyfriend offered to collect them and bring them home to mine. My ex asked me who was collecting the kids, so I told him that I had no choice and was not happy about this at all and lost his temper even though I pointed out that it was my day with the kids and also I trust my boyfriend. I’ve known him for years and he takes care of his nieces/ nephews regurlarly.
Anyway I am really unsure how to communicate with my Ex regarding the holiday situation as I am worried it will escalate into a big row. I don’t think legally he can stop me from taking the kids on holiday and I like to hope he wouldn’t as it would just hurt the kids, I have taken them abroad in past years (minus boyfriend) but I want him to know who is going out of courtesy and not hear it from the kids.I know he is going to initially lose it and start having a go at me. I want to avoid this…so do I play the softly softly card and introduce my boyfriend to him way in advance (which I’m sure he won’t want to do)…or do I just tell him the holiday is happening and let all hell break lose?
What would you do?
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NyaN81 · 15/11/2019 10:51
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