I have NC for this but have been on here ever since I got pregnant.
I am a lone parent as my DC father left when I got pregnant as he didn’t want the child. I have coped as well as I could in the situation but had to move back home to my parents where I have now bought a house and got a job (so moving not really an option or something I desire).
I’m starting to think about dating again, although I don’t think I’m totally ready yet. One of my (many) concerns about dating again though is how/when to not only mention that I’m a single parent but also that my DC is mixed race. I know it shouldn’t matter but I’m also aware that it probably will to many people and I want to know what experience Mumsnetters have with this that could help. FWIW I live in a 97% white area and I am happy to date anyone if we get along but realistically most of the dating pool around here is white. Obviously I wouldn’t give the time of day to anyone who cares about the colour of my son’s skin, so how do I filter those people out without wasting time on them?
Have any of you on here with mixed children faced any issues when dating or have people really not cared about the possibility of potentially being a step parent to a child who is patently not theirs?
I stupidly googled it at some point and saw lots of racist vitriol about white women and black men that has upset me and made me even more worried. I’m not looking for a dad for my son but obviously if I date again it’s to find someone who will be a lifetime partner and that means that eventually they will be a step-parent.
Sorry if this is overly long or confusing.
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Tiredtiredtired100 · 29/10/2019 05:33
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