Me and my husband split up 5 months ago. He’s currently living with his parents while he saves for a place to rent which will hopefully be by Christmas. He sees them one mid week evening and every Friday night and drops them back home on a Saturday afternoon. He says once he has his own place he will have them more but i can’t see it happening, he is full to the brim with false promises.
He cancels on them a lot mid week, this week he’s cancelled on them 3 times as he kept re arranging and my oldest son has been very upset and angry. If it was for a genuine reason then I would be more understanding but he’s a liar, always has been so I know most of the time its because he’s got home from work and decided he’s tired and will just reschedule seeing the kids. I’ve caught him out a few times where he’s said he’s had car trouble then I’ve had a message from a friend saying “oh just seen DH with his friend at X”
I just hate this dynamic that these kind of dads just leave and that’s it, their hands are washed of any responsibility it’s now all down to the other parent to handle, they will do their one day a week and they are some kind of saint, why is it fair that everything is down to me!? I work full time and I’m up at 5am every day with my 1 year old, I don’t stop until about 9pm, then when the kids are with their dad for that one day I spend all my time sorting the house, washing clothes, going food shopping etc. It never ends.
Am I wrong in wanting him to step up and have them more once he has his own place? My son misses his dad so much and it’s heartbreaking to see how upset he gets when I have to tell him he’s not coming.
I know I have it better than a lot of other single mums and I hate to moan but I just feel so angry right now. My 1 year old has hit terrible 2’s, I’m exhausted, I’m skint and I don’t see this changing any time soon. Any advice for a stressed out mum.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Use our Single Parent forum to speak to other parents raising a child alone.
Lone parents
Struggling
5 replies
QueenOfNothing20 · 07/07/2019 17:11
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.