Ex is a narcissist.
We have an 8 yo dd
Split up 5 years
He sees her regularly but as he has ‘a very important job’ he gets most of the weekends and I do all the parenting during the week.
I’ve tried to get him to change the arrangement so that I can have more weekends with her - and he can step up commitments during the week enabling to rebuild my career - but he just says he wants to go 50/50 shared care which dd says she doesn’t want and I don’t think will benefit her.
She says she hates all the to-ing and fro-ing but wants to see us both.
She is now in a fairly fragile emotional state, suffering with anxiety and putting on a baby voice most of the time. Tried play therapy but then ex refused to pay for it (out of his 6 figure salary) (i earn £17k)) so that had to stop, now she is in a downward spiral of anxiety about not wanting to grow up and getting into an almost hysterical state at bedtime, he says I’m exaggerating everything and won’t listen to me when I say I think she needs more professional help. Now he has taken her away for a week during half term which is great - but he won’t answer my texts or phone calls - just switches his phone off so I can’t speak to her.
Genuinely feel like everything is in a mess and is all too much and I don’t know which way to turn.
Can anyone suggest anything?
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isaterror · 28/05/2019 01:28
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