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In court today - wish me luck!

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Hullabalooo · 02/04/2019 08:24

In family court today at the hands of EA ex. Really stressed.

Wish me luck everyone!

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endofthelinefinally · 02/04/2019 08:28

Good luck.

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cliquewhyohwhy · 02/04/2019 10:00

Good luck hope you get the outcome you want!

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Spartasprout · 02/04/2019 10:02

The best of luck to you Hullabaloo

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troubleswillbeoutofsight · 02/04/2019 11:58

Stay strong

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morewashingtodooo · 02/04/2019 16:55

@Hullabalooo How did it go? Hope your feeling ok

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IggyAce · 02/04/2019 16:56

Hope it went ok.

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Hullabalooo · 02/04/2019 17:17

Thanks everyone. It ended up taking most of the day. Cafcass has ordered section 7 report and final hearing in a few months.

Absolutely rung out emotionally after at all.

Really appreciate all your support xxx

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Jellykat · 02/04/2019 17:18

How did it go Hullabaloo?
I've been there 3 times, a long time ago mind, but remember how horrendous it is..

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Jellykat · 02/04/2019 17:22

Oo x- posted there..
Well done getting through it! Bet you feel completely wiped out, yet as though you've drunk 10 strong coffees!..

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Hullabalooo · 03/04/2019 03:29

Exhausted and wired. Wide awake reliving it at 3 30am.

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stuckonaname · 03/04/2019 03:36

I bet you're glad it's over . What's a section 7 report? Hope you get some rest soon. I've been there and may have to go there again

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2018anewstart · 04/04/2019 02:29

Hope you are ok. Not sure how old your children are but if old enough their wishes will definitely be taken into account. Xx

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Hullabalooo · 04/04/2019 08:18

Had to leave work early yesterday. Couldn't stop shaking. Think must be delayed shock. The whole thing was so utterly horrible.

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Hullabalooo · 04/04/2019 08:19

Section 7 is ordered by cafcass and means they'll come to both homes to assess each parent and then probably see dc at school separately before making a final report up court.

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Jellykat · 04/04/2019 18:49

It is hideous Hullabaloo, but you will get through it, take it one step at a time

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Hullabalooo · 06/04/2019 13:59

Thank you @jellykat xx

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LRL2019 · 06/04/2019 14:02

Thinking of you, final hearing for me in 6 weeks ish. It's such a long, emotionally draining process

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Manchestergal87 · 06/04/2019 18:51

Hope all goes well @Hullabalooo!

Ive got my first hearing next month and I'm dreading it! Any tips or advice? It's the now knowing the outcome is the horrible part too!

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Hullabalooo · 06/04/2019 20:41

Be prepared, take your own copies of all legal papers just in case, wear waterproof mascara and take tissues. Make a list of what you need to say to cafcass on the meeting.

Pen and paper to take notes as you'll forget things in the stress. Get there early, check what court you're in and then find a room to sit in if you can before the hearing.

And be careful about what you say. I said some stuff to cafcass in my stressed upset state that I wish I hadn't.

Good luck!

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Hullabalooo · 06/04/2019 20:42

@lrl2019 have you had the cafcass home visits yet?

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LRL2019 · 06/04/2019 20:45

@Hullabalooo yes I have. I've got the section 7 report back, but he has contested it so got to go to a final hearing. I found the visits ok, ended up have one visit just me (they won't conduct it if the child is there) and one to visit the child at home (home in my case due to only being of a young age)

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LRL2019 · 06/04/2019 20:48

I said some stuff I wish I hadn't but report went in my favour. I was highly stressed when they came. The first hearing for me was ok but so drawn out as he said he would make an agreement. Gave what he wanted and he went back on it all. Spent hours and hours in court back and forth between solicitors and all I did was worry about the solicitors fees. Cafcaas were helpful though. I took a solicitor with me and found that helped as he calmed me so much. All in all spent about minutes in actual court room.