Name change as this could be outing. To cut a very long and convoluted story slightly shorter, ex has not seen DD since he walked out when she was a couple of days old. After that I moved to be closer to family so therefor was quite far away from him. I tried on many occasions to get him to see DD but he's either flat out refused or let me down at the very last minute. Contact has always been sporadic with him. When DD was little he would regularly ask after her and seemed to be taking steps towards wanting to be involved in her life. Then when DD was just about 6 months he started a new relationship and I heard nothing from him for about four months. He then popped up again asking if DD was still ok. I clearly explained that I don't want him popping in and out when it's convenient for him, he agreed but then heard nothing from him for a fair few months. Fast forward to a months ago and I've moved much closer to where he's living. I've communicated with him about upping maintenance to the CMS calculated minimum which he agreed to. DD is now 19 months and I'm conflicted as to whether I should be the one to approach the subject of him seeing her. With regards to communicating about maintenance he didn't ask about her at all even after I offered up some updates, hoping he'd be interested. Some of my family are pushing for me to be the one to approach it but I really don't want to be let down yet again. From my perspective he seems to want to keep it as she's a slightly inconvenient financial strain but apart from that he wants nothing to do with her (even less so with this new relationship). So do I approach it with him or let him be the adult for once and ask me?
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