To be dragged back into court.

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Does anyone have experience of being dragged back into court to change a child arrangements order?

My ex husband has been threatening me to have every other overnight midweek stays (he has visits) as well as his every other weekend.

In principle I don't have an issue with it when our son is ready but at the moment we tried and it has been affecting our son, he is exhausted and very withdrawn as well as the fact that he will request to be returned home.

My ex lives in a shared flat with two other working adults and he sets up a bed in his room, the flat has no communal areas other than a kitchen, I don't think this is suitable accommodation for the days the school run is because I don't think he will get a good nights sleep.

My previous experience of cafcass was not great and I am worried they will force my 4 year old to sleep at dads midweek during term time.

Does anyone have any experience of going back to court and losing out on time with your children (I am already assuming mediation is going to go down like a sack of sht) ?

[Helpisneeded13]

No having a good nights sleep won't be good enough reason when most kids at that age don't need loads to function, his accommodation isn't enough to stop, because it will be seen that he has provided a bed etc and it's all he can afford. Unless there's are record at school or nursery it's just your word.
I'm not trying to fill you with negatives but as you know already it's not as simple as some posters right that you can request what contact you think is right for your dc.
I would try every other week midweek overnight , see how that goes for 3 months. If he has any issues stop and let him talk you to court. If the ex doesn't agree explain the court will frown on the fact that because he didn't get what he wanted he came to court not prioritising the dc.

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"Threatening"? He wants to spend more time with his own son and you make it sound like it's a bad thing.