Hi all,
I have just joined the site to try and get a second opinion, I can't really ask friends or family for fear of stirring up bad feelings in the family.
My ex husband and I divorced a year ago, for some part it was acrimonious and we are still finding our peace. It is getting better.
We have one son who is 4 and is lovely as all children are.
As I am in the process of changing jobs I have had to look at my finances and I requested the evidence of how my ex husband worked out how much he should pay towards his childcare. He was very dismissive. I looked at the government website and I can tell with some certainty that he is very likely to be underpaying me (long story) roughly between 30 to 50 £ per month.
We are lucky and grateful that we are not in need. I have always earned more than he does but I need my finances to be clear. I much rather have an honest discussion than him deciding on a random amount.
When is it ever acceptable for a man not to pay the statutory amount of child maintenance? Would you mind? He has no other children and is earning enough to support himself comfortably.
He is very confrontational and resents me for earning more than he does.
Not sure if I am being unfair but want to do the best for my little one.
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When is it acceptable for him to pay less
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Light11 · 16/12/2018 21:11
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