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NGC2017 · 21/11/2018 20:56

I am getting nowhere posting anywhere else.

I have a history of breast pain that happens 3 or so times a year and lasts for 5 weeks approx. I was referred in March to the breast clinic to be told to keep an eye on things.
For the last 4 weeks I have been really uncomfortable in the same breast, my left. I managed to get an appt but had to wait 2 weeks. Got there for the doctor to refuse to examine me as I had only been referred in March. I have a history of anxiety so of course I stressed all weekend. Another feel in the shower on Sunday night I definitely found a lump 😢 I told myself to not panic and check lying down. I did and it was there. Que loads of crying and a call to my mom. I couldn't sleep and I felt sick.
I called doctors on Monday to explain my appt on Friday. I was asked to go in Tuesday morning. Within a minute of the doctor checking, she found it and has referred me to the rapid access clinic for this Sunday. I am trying to keep busy but I am so so scared. The more discomfort I feel with it the more obvious it becomes to me.
Why have I posted this here? Because I am prone to thinking the worst. I have severe anxiety at the idea of dying young and not being around for my young DS. I am his only parent, his Dad is not around. He is on the BC and hasn't seen him in over 3 years but his PR worries me. Obviously this is me thinking too far and inappropriately (i hope) ahead but I think this is the underlying thing triggering my anxiety.
I am only 32 and ds is 4. I am terrified about Sunday.

Does anyone have any breast lump/tenderness stories

TIA x

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PurpleDaisies · 21/11/2018 20:58

The vast, vast, vast majority of breast lumps turn out to be absolutely nothing to worry about at all. Anyone with a lump gets referred urgently just in case but in all likelihood it will be fine.

Good luck on Sunday Flowers

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PurpleDaisies · 21/11/2018 20:59

I’ve reported your post to be moved to women’s health where you will get more responses. X

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NGC2017 · 21/11/2018 21:09

I've posted there. Thank you

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bumbother · 21/11/2018 22:11

Hi OP,

A couple of years back, I had shooting pain in my breast. On one occasion it was while I was sleeping and it had me shooting bolt upright in bed.

Shortly after that I found a lump. It ended up being a cyst and it comes back every so often, round about my period.

But I do have a new lump just now, feels different to the last one, can't quite decide if it's getting smaller or not and my periods long gone this month. I'm just keeping an eye out.

Best of luck for Sunday. Will be thinking of you Thanks

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NGC2017 · 21/11/2018 22:19

From what I am hearing I feel the liklihood will be a cyst. My discomfort this time around is persistent but every so often its sharp and and really really unpleasant. Thank you for your reply and thoughts x

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Lonecatwithkitten · 21/11/2018 22:41

I had a breast lump and under went extensive investigations and surgery before being given the all clear.
As a single parent I got all my ducks in a row will sorted and letter of wishes registered so the executors knew what I would want. I wrote a letter for my DD to have on her 18 birthday as well.
That was 5 years ago I review the letter of wishes and letter to DD every year. I found I was much calmer and less anxious because I had plans in place.

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NGC2017 · 21/11/2018 22:52

That must have been awful. So glad you was given the all clear.
It's nice to hear from a single parent perspective as I think that's why I've posted this question here and also on women's health. My son is everything to me. Especially with him being only 4 it would crush me

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bumbother · 24/11/2018 21:03

Good luck tomorrow, OP. Hope you've managed to relax a little Thanks

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NGC2017 · 24/11/2018 22:07

@bumbother that's really kind of you to remember Smile

My appointment isn't until 4th now. I returned home the other day to a letter with my appointment. I called saying I'd been given one for Sunday and she said it should have been explained to me that was just a holding appointment and that the 4th December was my proper appointment. I asked to be seen sooner but she said that Is their first rapid access appointment. So my wait is a bit longer now. But thank you for your thoughts x

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bumbother · 25/11/2018 11:26

@NGC2017 Oh, that's not fair, having it drag out for longer! Keep busy and keep us posted. Take care x

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