Xh has just asked if he can take kids away for a couple of days in the hols ......

[MrsWho]

and I don't have a reason to say no but I'll miss them

[wurlywurly]

book your self a pamper day while they are away or have a girly night in??

[Tinkerbel5]

if the children are going to be well looked after then let them go, they will probably really enhoy themselves, 2 days isnt long if you keep yourself occupied

[claire2510]

What good advice from wurlywurly!!go to the gym for a swim shopping and treat yourself. visit friends and be busy. do the kids want to go? guess thats the question?

[CarGirl]

you can decorate or have a clear out - just make plans and the time will fly by!

[Aimsmum]

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[mistressmiggins]

We've all been there
once you've done it, it will be OK the next time
natural to miss them & worry but you do need time to yourself

I decorated DS bedroom when he was away for the week & he was sooooo pleased when he came home - remember also thats the key word "HOME"

[Catnkids]

I've had exactly the same thing this week (by email - but he didn't ask) I'm already panicking about how I'll keep myself occupied without my little ones for 3 days. They've never been away for more than a day and never all at once.

Good ideas from you other ladies. I'm a bit scuppered with having pamper days (cost) and girly nights (they'll all be on hols) and I don't want to decorate till I know the house is mine! Perhaps a good clear out would be a good idea rather than a clean!

My daughter isn't looking forward to it and says she can't be without me for 3 days... I need to start planning a timetable for that weekend already (its in August).

Mrs Who - I'm sure we'll get through it but there'll be tears and sadness too.

[mistressmiggins]

it is hard & hurts like hell but you do get used to it
pelase try to find something ncie you can do & enjoy the time to recharge batteries

I feel for you

come on MN & have a moan or look at different threads & enjoy

[MrsWho]

I'm used to them going for a day and o/n but a couple (prob will be 3at least as they are going to other end of the country which is another ) maytry to get away on my own.

Other thing is I am only just starting to trust my Xh (alcohlic, violent, drugs but clean atm)witht the kids and am wary about them going that far (visiting his cousin).

Also worryiong about who he is going with.
GF r his Mam

[Catnkids]

My kids are going with their dad, his parents and more than likely his sister and her husband. He can't cope with the kids on his own . I've just got to hope his girlfriend and her kids don't go too, i can't even think about that at the moment. My kids will take their mobiles and they know that I'll go and get them if they're unhappy. They shouldn't be more than 3 hours drive from me - but I'd go to the ends of the earth if I had to.

I haven't the confidence to go away on my own and no-one else to go with good on you MrsWho!

[MrsWho]

I haven't done it yet!

I have been on my own with kids IYSWIM and go to pictures etcon my own so away is the next step!

[glitterfairy]

I think the key is what do the kids want and do you trust that they will be well cared for. Violence is the one thing which would stop me tbh but X has been ok this year.

Mine went away last year and I had a great time Although I really missed them but the peace was lovely). They didnt though and I got messages from them which were really miserable. As a consequence I am sure they wont go even if asked this year.

Try and see it as a rest because being a full on single mum is really knackering.

[cherryred]

I'm having a similar dilemma at the moment, my partner left in March and has moved abroad so the kids haven't seen him since, although they've had regular phone contact, he now wants to take them to Spain for a week in August and I don't know what to do, on the one hand they miss him terribly and might benefit from spending time with him on the other they have never been away from me for a week and they won't have seen him for 6 months so it might be quite scary for them (not to mention me!). They are aged 6 and 8. Any advice would be helpful...

[MrsWho]

They can both use a phone (though would have to teach them area codes!) so I know they can do contact me anyway but its the traveling and dd2s behaviour (runs away/ no stranger danger ) that I would worry about.

[MrsWho]

Will be Mon-Fir and with his GF.Think he is in for a shock though as he has only had them for a day/1 night so far. Also heusually has loads of help!

At least he has changed his mind about camping as dd2 escapes!