When the kids are ill

[Ilovecrumpets]

Just posting for a ramble really.

Been a single parent for a year now to 2 DCs - although their dad was away fir significant periods from when they were born.

I still find it really difficult when they are ill - I have some anxiety around them being unwell since having bad PND. It isn’t the physical aspects but the responsibility. I find I get so anxious that they might be really ill and I’d make the wrong call, or couldn’t cope in some way, or what would I do with the other one if I needed to go to hospital with one of them. I don’t have any family that are near by.

It sounds silly now I’m writing it down. I have it at the moment now - eldest has a temperature, probably just a bad cold coming on, but I feel really anxious. Am totally knackered due to general life but can’t sleep as worrying.

Does anyone have any tips on how to manage it at all? I need to get better at it given I have years ahead

[HappyHedgehog247]

It’s ok to be anxious. Non-single parents have someone to share those anxieties and decisions with. Are there other people who can help share this responsibility with you or reassure you a bit? 111 or doctor, family or friends? I hope they are better soon xx

[Ilovecrumpets]

Thanks for replying @HappyHedgehog247 ( what a great name btw!).

I guess I feel embarrassed sharing with a friend as my logical brain knows I am being silly. Ironically anytime they have been really unwell I’ve actually dealt with it fine. I do have one friend though that I could perhaps ask if I could use as a sense check at these times.

I wonder if I should perhaps try and get some help to deal with it. My mother was very anxious around illness and I don’t want to pass it on to my kids. Plus also I’d like not to feel like this!