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Nothing you can do if he doesn’t want the kids . Make sure it is documented so he can’t pick up and dump the kids dependant upon his relationship status
Him paying extra means nothing, the csa only requests the basic. More that month is more that month- nothing else.
You can't do anything about it, sorry but he choice, as terrible and lazy as it is
You can't force him to have the kids more so there's nothing that you can do tbh.
I left ex after 16 years a lot off which was emotional abuse and we have 4 children.
Our current set up is he takes the kids a Tuesday and Saturday night and has done since feb. Then a few weeks back suddenly out the blue he wants to change the days to every 2nd sat and tues and i refused and said no the kids need stability etc the only reason he wants to change his days as he wants to recharge his batteries.
After a few texts from today he told me it is happening even though ive not agreed and that was all he has to say on the matter.
He does have a new girlfriend with kids. Plus a few weeks back he was wanting the kids more now hes wanting them less.
He also decided to give me an extra £34 csa money this month as he suddenly got a payrise.
Anyone have any advice? I feel hes still trying to control me even though we are not together.