Hey!
Need a bit of advice here cos I am well and truly pissed off.
My ex and I have been going through the family court since June. He currently has no contact with DS (age 1) and hasn't since April due to him trying to run off with him and then assaulting me. I ended the relationship when ds was only 2 weeks old as I was very unhappy for a long time and he drank every single day of our relationship which i completely hated. Final straw was him driving with ds in car early hours of the morning after drinking all night so i ended it. He also had a 25 year cannabis habit.
Anyways the court has ordered he has to have drug and alcohol tests done. I know he's stopped cannabis because I told him even before we went to court I'd get him drug tested which was stupid of me cos I've basically gave him the chance to stop but I know he'll go back to it once court is over. So drug tests will prob be a waste of time. But the alcohol is my main issue if I'm honest.
The thing that's pissed me off the most is these alcohol tests were first mentioned in court in June. Mentioned but not ordered at that point. Then we went back to court in August for another hearing and then the tests were ordered, bearing in mind he'd already had since June to cut down. Then fast forward to October the tests still aren't done. They have been purposefully delayed by him and his solicitor. He is clearly attempting to cut down so it shows a better reading but it'll be bullshit. I know him and I know how much he drinks and these tests will not be a true picture of his drinking. We were back at court last week and the court did ask why they haven't been done yet and have said they are to be done asap.
I have to pay for half of these tests which is a few hundred pounds. I am livid that he has basically been given the heads up in June that tgese tests were going to be done. They may aswell have said to him u are going to be tested so get yourself home and cut down. If these tests were done in June when they were first mentioned and going back 6 months, that would show a true reading.
What I would like to ask people though is how do I approach this when we are next at court because he had had since June to cut down and he has also delayed the tests for 2 months after they were ordered. I am worried that the court are going to praise him for cutting down and even my solicitor said that may happen but it is total bullshit. Once this is all over he will go straight back to how He's been for years and years. He is simply doing this to get access again.
Need to know how to broach this subject with the court because it will not be a truthful result. Can I use the fact he's delayed the test and the fact that he's had since June to cut down in my favour.
End of the day it's a safeguarding issue so it's very important to me and I am so pissed off these tests have taken months to happen!
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Ex has to have drug/alcohol tests. Advice needed.
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JoJo2106 · 16/10/2018 23:02
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