Hi all, need a bit of a rant aplogies if a bit long lol.
Me and ex are going through family court since end of June. He has no contact with our now 13 month old since April when ds was 7 month old due to a domestic violence incident at my home where he attacked me whilst he was holding ds. The court ordered no contact until matters were investigated fully. Fast forward to August hearing and the court has said contact can resume but it was ordered due to ds very young age and the length if time since ex has seen ds that contact started in contact centre for 4 sessions at 2 hours a time. We asked for 6 sessions but they ordered 4. There's only one centre where we live am not sure about other places.
Anyway in the meantime the contact centre has temporarily closed due to the coordinator having personal problems and has since quit. But have been assured it will reopen soon. My ex's solicitor then contacted my solicitor to say he was applying for the next nearest contact centre which is miles away. I have no transport and ds is up through the night at least twice as he's very restless sleeper and also with teething. So due to us been up a lot in the night ds often sleeps later and I don't wake him as he needs the sleep. I told my solicitor to say there is no way I can manage a centre that is miles away with no transport for morning contact. It would be extremely difficult to do with an exhausted 1 year old. There is no way I would make it for the time they say plus getting buses/trains then I have no idea where the contact centre is when I do get there and would have to walk on foot. All my ex has to do is get in his car and drive but it would be a nightmare for me and ds. Nothing he does or wants is in ds's interest everything is to suit him.
Anyway as I refused to go to the other centre and said it would be easier and better for ds for our local one to reopen we'd wait for that as I know it won't be long, He has applied back to court to basically force me to go to the other. Also as the other centre is fortnightly he's took it upon himself with his solicitor to reduce the sessions to 2 sessions rather than 4. The local one is weekly. How is a baby that hasn't seen someone for half of their life meant to get to know someone in 2 sessions and then he just gets to have him on his own after that? Hasn't a clue how to care for him has never even bathed him or fed him proper food or anything. Itll be like going with a stranger after 2 sessions.
I have contacted the other centre and they are completely full until after Christmas but yet we are still going to court to supposedly make me go. Our local one will be open well before that. More hundreds of pounds down the drain paying solicitors for a hearing that doesn't need to happen. Even if the court made me go to the other centre I can't Any way as there's no places. What an idiot I am dealing with.
The court also ordered back in August for ex to do 6 months of alcohol tests as he drinks every day and it's still not been done and is been purposefully delayed by him and his solicitor.
I am absolutely pissed off. It's like he wants to make the whole thing as difficult as possible. Not a thought for how ds may react. Cos as bad as it sounds ds will not even know who he is so will need to get used to him and you can't do that in 2 sessions. Will the court not see that as a waste of time the fact that my ex knows there are no spaces in the other centre but yet he's taking it to court Any way?
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Ex taking me back to court. Rant needed!
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JoJo2106 · 05/10/2018 12:10
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