Hi everyone,
My DH had depression, became an alcoholic and in June 16 went into rehab. and last summer he committed suicide.
Then in November my DS tried to commit suicide at 17 and got heavily into drugs. He’s much better now.
My DD1 is 14. She kept everything in and has always been very self controlled. Then in March I met someone. He [post edited by MNHQ at OP's request] is a wheelchair user . He is someone who is kind and mentally strong in my life who gives me chance to breathe and re- build myself.
I see him maybe once a week, 2 if I’m lucky and often early on a weekend morning when the kids are still asleep so it doesn’t affect them.
The problem is DD1 went on my phone and found a text from him within the first week of me seeing him and she hates it. She always worried if she thought I was on my own with my DH in case we might kiss or hug.
Now me seeing my BF has tipped her over the edge . She says it’s like her bucket was already full with sadness, anger, guilt and this has made it all spill over. She’s taken an overdose when Ive been out with him. ( I had two children in hospital from overdoses in 1 week). She says she’s scared he’ll hurt her. Absolutely doesn’t want to meet him. She’s rung up repeatedly when I’ve been on dates. She’s become anorexic and she’s just started on anti depressants.
I honestly don’t know what to do. My family and friends all want me to carry on seeing him or they think she’ll always try and control my life. Every single doctor and counsellor that have spoken to DD say that I should keep seeing him or her fears will control her forever and she’ll think she can always control others.
When I’m talking to her I know that the right thing to do is to finish with him but then when I get back into my own headspace I know that having someone who cares about me is keeping me going.
I feel like such a bad, selfish Mum and I feel so lonely being a single parent.
Has anyone had any experience that could help me with this please?
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Teandcake · 20/07/2018 08:06
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