I'm kind of a single parent as the father of my 4 week old baby is abroad and has visa issues - not sure what will happen in terms of us.
But my question is this - when does being a mum get easier?
I wanted to be a mum more than anything and was so happy to discover I would be one (even though it was unplanned, and a scary prospect as father is not in this country). Pregnancy was amazing! I felt confident about the future and have been and still am so supported by all my incredible friends.
My baby girl is just 4 weeks old and so I know I'm being a bit hasty here - but oh my god, I'm finding it hard. A lot of the time I think she's very sweet, but more of the time I'm finding it overwhelming and stressful! I naively just didn't realise what an adjustment it would be. I don't feel like I can get anything done because she wants to be fed ALL THE TIME (I'm breastfeeding and I guess she likes little and often), or she won't let me put her down. I know she's soooo little and she needs needs me more than ever but I sometimes feel at the end of my tether, which is a horrible feeling! I think she's having a growth spurt and / or a developmental stage where she is very clingy but even knowing this doesn't make it easier - when like today she is latching on and off every 30 mins and screaming if I pop her down to go to the loo!
Rather than seeking advice about feeding and attachment etc, I'm really just wondering when things will feel a bit easier? I.e when have you found your baby to develop a bit of a feeding pattern for themselves. It's probably worth saying now, I don't believe in leaving her to cry at this stage or trying to impose a routine for her when she is so little.
I do see friends often as they come to visit, but obviously I'm by myself most of the time. I guess not having a partner here in the evening makes a difference as that would break up the day a bit. But how can I feel less frustrated with my sweet little baby - who needs me so much to be more relaxed and patient. I want to feel more bonded with her and can't believe I don't feel happier :(
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Motherofpearl19 · 18/07/2018 21:50
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