Recently split from OH, I'm on maternity and our baby is 4 months. He's said he'll give me £200 a month. Is this normal? Seems quite low to me especially considering I'm not working. I don't know exactly what he earns, he's self employed so does differ. I'm sure he gets around £500 per week
Also get in touch with the job centre / council or go on the government website you should get child benefit, tax credits and other stuff ( I get universal credit in my area ) so check what benefits you can get to help.
I am claiming child benefit. Wasnt aware I could get tax credits though so I'll look into that. So do I get the same money off him while on maternity as id get if I was working? Scared to make things official cos feel he could make it look like he gets paid less than he does and I might be worse off. £200 is a joke though, he lives at His mum's too so can easy afford more
You could call child maintenance options? They might put you onto the CSA but they can calculate what you should receive and help you enforce it. I go through the CSA because my ex is abusive and we have a no contact thing in place. He isn't agreeable at all.
My BD is a deadbeat and constantly tells me he wants nothing to do with his kids. He doesn't show interest, doesn't pay and is a nasty person. I am fine with that be aide I've been doing it by myself for over 3 years but the problem is his mum wants to have them in her life but they live together. Am I a bad person to stop letting my kids go round there?
CSA doesn't take cases anymore, its the child maintenance service. By the time they've taken their cut you might get 200. But the benefits will take that as income and lower your benefits accordingly. So in my opinion its negligible.
@Ytaylorx2 was thinking more of the grandmother than the father. My parents never got on with their parents so i never had grandparents and i know what i missed out on. You're doing a great job by your kids but my bias says let them have the family that also want to do right by them.
@Blighty0204 I understand what your saying but I just think that it isn't fair that he doesn't help at all one of our kids has a disability and he doesn't even no what is wrong with her cause he wasn't bothered to come to any appointment or even ask.
The dads a seperate matter. Things need to calm down for you and then one day when he changes his mind and the kids really want a relationship with him. you need to swallow your pride, buy a punch bag lol and be the better person for your kids.