Hi, I've name changed so that I can run away when you all tell me I'm a terrible parent.
I am a single mum to a 14 yr old boy. His D isn't really interested in parenting and has really let him down multiple times since our split when DS was 3. I work full time plus overtime shifts (laughable maintenance from exh £14/week) to make ends meet which sometimes they don't.
I've always felt the Mum guilt of having to leave him with his grandparents when I'm working and over the last 12 months or so have trusted him to stay at home for a few hours on his own. He achieves average results at school but is well liked by the teachers and I often get comments about him being a credit to me.
He's been quite fed up recently and has often commented that he hasn't any friends (he has 2/3 good friends and lots of people he knows to talk to) and that people at school tell him to kill his self. We've chatted about this at length and he knows how loved he is and that school isn't forever, the people he sees now aren't life-long friends.
This morning I received a call from school to say that DS has set up a fake Instagram account and asked 2 of his friends (who are girls) for naked pictures with the intent on framing the boys who have been bullying him. He knows all about internet safety and integrity following a previous incident where he recorded himself singing "dis" songs (as far as I can tell, rapping saying derogatory things about your friends as part of a "one-upmanship" kind of competition between them) which was also reported to the school. He was supposed to delete all online accounts following this but I have noticed Instagram creep back.
At the moment school haven't given him any sanctions but will be letting the parents of the 2 girl's know and will be dealing with the bullies.
So - how do I deal with this? I want to go batshit crazy but realise he's actually very fragile himself and needing support and boundaries. I really need to step it up as a parent and have looked at taking parental leave to spend some vital quality time with him but can't afford to have unpaid time off.
I wish I could get a second chance at being a proper mum to him 😢
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slothcity · 24/05/2018 12:53
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