Bit of a long one, but I'll ty keep it simple.
I was just after some opinions about whether it is wrong of me to think the way I do...
My ex and I have been split since last year and we have a 2 yr old daughter together. Access is not really an issue here, but what I am concerned about is how when our DD is poorly, I get texts saying I should be doing more. Now obviously if our DD was seriously ill that goes without saying, anyone parent would be there in a flash if it was serious, however I get these messages and moans at me even when she's just had a rough nights sleep or has a cold/cough etc.
I am made to feel I should put my life on hold just in case I am needed, but for a basic illness, I feel that which ever parent has the child at that time they they should deal with it. I know if our DD was with me and didn't sleep well and had a bad cough/cold etc I wouldn't be contacting my ex about it, I would deal with it.
So is it wrong of me to think that if our DD isn't sleeping well, has a cough/cold or whatever, that if our DD is with her mother she deals with it, or if DD is with me I deal with it? Most people I speak to seem to agree with me, but just wanted to put this out there.
I love my DD so much and love spending time with her, but I have been told on many occasions, that after above messages I receive, that "I don't care" Clearly I do, but its just a basic bug or something, its not serious then should I drop everything I'm doing because she's not slept well, or has a cough?
It's like I am not allowed to have my own new life and move on, its making my life hell. We only live once and I just want to be happy.
I feel this happens because of a stressful home life my ex has and feels she can't actually cope, so deliberately tries to make me feel bad, which I always do after these texts I get.
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Anonymickeymouse · 01/04/2018 11:08
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