Ok deep breath - I am going to try again. Posted on here a little while ago to try to get some advice on introducing my children to my new partner but got immediately blasted from all angles (all well intentioned I am sure, but still) so I put the iPad down and walked away. A couple of months on I am still kind of at a loss with regards how to approach the idea of telling the kids that there is a new person in my life. Regardless of the timing question, I’m looking for some guidance about how to tell them. I have two DS aged 6 and 9. My logistical situation is tricky as I live in NY, exh lives in Europe and DP does too although he works for an airline so travels here frequently. When he visits, he stays at hotels which is expensive in NY and not practical in the long term. Because the boys’ father left the country, I have zero alone time unless I pay my sitter to stay with them which is also expensive and not fair on the boys. I really want to find a way to introduce them and explain what is happening. My instincts are to just sit them down and be honest with them about how I feel about this person and to explain that he is not going to replace anyone in their lives but that we love each other and I want him to be a part of our lives. The boys are aware that their dad and I are not going to get back together even though I’m aware that in their minds they may still harbour a hope. I have been separated for almost 2 yrs and my exh left the country 4 months ago. If anyone is willing to share their story with regards to introducing a new partner or has any advice from experience I would really appreciate it. Thank you
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SearchingMySoul · 04/03/2018 18:49
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