Hi all,
Is anyone here able to help me get through the guilt I feel about my daughter being an only child?
I made the decision to separate from my partner two weeks ago, so it's still very raw. However it was the right thing to do as he was driving me to distraction and that wasn't the best thing for DD.
I know the logical arguements about her being an only - I might meet someone else, I can do it myself if I decide to do it that way, being an only isn't the worst thing as I can focus more on her in both emotional and financial ways, but I've always wanted two kids.
I'm 37 now, so chances of getting pregnant again were already lowering by the day, and this decision has pushed it even further away as a possibility.
I just want to cry when I look at her though, as she's now likely to not have siblings, and that's really sad to me.
Has anyone else gone through this guilt and come out the other side?
I would talk to my mum about this, but she's ultra-logical and never really liked my partner, so she doesn't see it in the same way.
All of my friends have either had kids years ago, or were having kids at the same time as me and now planning on a second (little ones are two years old at the moment). I'm really happy when they say they're expecting (one of whom told me on the same day I told her about the break up), but I can't help being sad that is not me, and now unlikely to be me again.
So in part it's sadness that I probably won't ever be pregnant again, but I really loved having a sibling and I'm really upset that DD may not have that. I know I could post this on the 'only child' board, but for me it's the fact I'm a lone parent that makes this extra hard - I don't have the support of a partner.
cheers,
Mangababeuk
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mangababeuk · 17/01/2018 15:09
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