This is my first ever thread on MN but over the past 5 weeks I have read a lot of similar threads to this and it has really helped to hear about other people in the same boat as me.
I have 4 children 10 & 8 year old girls from a previous relationship and 5 & 3 year old boys from the relationship which has just ended.
My ex left on the 28th November, the day before our sons 5th birthday. He text me while I was at work telling me he had moved his stuff out of our house. He is now staying with his Mum until he can find his own place.
We did have a lot of problems in our relationship, I am a total control freak which is really hard for a partner to deal with, I can completely underatand that. I got my first job after being a stay at home mum for 5 years back in the summer as the secretary at the school that my children go to and ever since then I think we've grown apart even more due to me having more to think about and I probably did start putting him last.
I know all the things I did wrong in our relationship and he did try to talk to me about it towards the end but I just didn't have the time or energy and basically brushed our problems off saying "we'll be ok" and "don't be dramatic" etc. I wish so much I had just stopped and listened now and sorted things out while I had the chance!!
I miss him like mad and literally can't think of a single other thing apart from him 24/7. I can't sleep and when I do I wake up in the middle of the night and check my phone (of course theres no messages). I can barely get out of bed in the mornings, I can't eat. I'm contantly just trying to think of ways to get him back and convince him that things will be different. He doesn't want anything to to do with me, i've begged and begged for him back!!
I think its so hard because I know i'm the one to blame for all this so i've brought it all on myself. I just need to know how to get through this!!
Anyone who has been through this please please give me some advise on how to get through each day? And when does it start getting better?!?
I've been staying with my mum because i'm just struggling so much but I can't rely on other people to basically look after me and my children forever.
Its been just over a month now and my ex just thinks I should be over it and focussing on him maintaining a good relationship with the boys but everytime I speak to him with the intention of it being about the children I end up begging for him back and he gets annoyed with me!
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Caroline1986 · 30/12/2017 13:27
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