Been divorced over a decade, kids now just launched and last year of school. Grown one refused to see him last few years (not entirely sure why, general asshattery on his part I think), but then wanted to try again, arranged to meet for a coffee, he cancelled at the last minute & has not tried to rearrange.
Younger one has always seen exh once a week for overnights. Younger one has been away all summer and now, despite being home 2 weeks, has still not seen his dad. First it was dad was "too tired", then (after making a firm time for Saturday) texted to say "actually I'm out with friends instead, tomorrow would be good", then "I'm too tired" again.
Ds is "aggravated" & declined to rebook for today. His dad has not called him, barely texted.
After the divorce he chose not to split custody as he said he "couldn't cope" with younger school aged kids. But this level of disengagement is new.
Me asking him what's up won't work as he can be pretty combative/feel very sorry for himself.
But I wonder how to support the kids. I feel I'm a bit crap at saying the right thing. I settled on (yesterday) "well, I can see why you'd be aggravated, I'm sorry that's happening", but it sounds a bit pat?
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lizzieoak · 04/09/2017 16:28
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