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PatriciaD80 Wed 23-Aug-17 17:26:33

Hello everyone,

As a single mom of two kids, with problems regarding payments and communication with my ex, I'm considering the development of a mobile app which would help divorced parents with child maintenance payment tracking, visiting schedule, conversation with the ex, legal help, etc.

It will be helpful for me if you could take 5 mins of your time and fulfill this survey, so I could have better info.

www.surveymonkey.com/r/DBCQKYT

Thanks in advance,

Pat

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Whoknows11 Wed 23-Aug-17 18:26:27

Completed

Lonecatwithkitten Wed 23-Aug-17 23:15:47

I think in principal the idea is good, but I know my Ex would refuse to engage as he would see it as being dictated to.

PatriciaD80 Thu 24-Aug-17 07:34:16

Hey Lonecat :-)

He would not be forced to use it, but if you have good attitude and show positive influence from your side to make things better and solve the problems (and I think there must be some kind of tracking system for expenses, payments, child visits, etc), this could be enough for the authorities to see who's good and who's a bad parent and help them later to make decisions on your behalf.

At least this my opinion and thank you for starting a topic!

Kisses for the kitten tbusmile

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Lonecatwithkitten Thu 24-Aug-17 07:46:54

Patricia having been in the system for five years I don't think you need an app to show the positive attitude.
I could also be used by an abusive person as a rod to beat you with.

Familylawsolicitor Thu 24-Aug-17 07:54:23

Answered as a divorce lawyer (I am not separated but answered as if I were one of my current clients).

Your terminology is off for English users.

Shared custody has not been relevant since 1989. Shared care is the appropriate term now

Alimony, vacations, day care. All sound American. Spousal maintenance, holidays, childcare.

"legal council" - I think you mean legal counsel but legal advice is more appropriate term in the UK.

How many legal actions doesn't really make sense. I don't know what you mean by a legal action and I'm a lawyer. I have cases, applications to court and couldn't count every letter each of which could conceivably be counted as a legal action. Asking how much was spent on lawyers might be a better gauge if you are trying to work out how acrimonious matters were.

However I think the concept is good. My kids' school use parentpay for parents to pay for children's activities etc and something similar for separated parents to share expenses and transfer funds could work.

I imagine only those who are amicable will use it though and those who are amicable probably communicate ok to transfer funds between them without much issue.

I only have a very few divorce clients I think it would work for, those who have agreed to share several expenses amicably for children. Many don't. That said I do tend to work with the less amicable on the spectrum.

Familylawsolicitor Thu 24-Aug-17 08:01:19

this could be enough for the authorities to see who's good and who's a bad parent and help them later to make decisions on your behalf.

What are you envisaging here? The courts don't judge parents as good or bad and most people avoid court. Most parents manage to make the decisions themselves. I don't think your app would be particularly helpful evidence in a court case though I do think it would be helpful for parents who get on.

Ninjakittysmells Thu 24-Aug-17 08:02:55

I've just completed. Ds dad and I get on really well, we text / call each other most days to catch up on Ds (he lives abroad and visits once a month for the day so I have sole care) Because we get on so well, he would be really
Offended I think if I suggested using something like this. We just chat!

I can see how it may be useful to others who have a less friendly relationship, but then at the other end of the scale can you imagine some manipulative bastard who wants to control their ex with this ap? It could be a disaster, so I would like to see some protection (not sure how mind!) for users of your app in that situation. (I'm imagining conversations such as I'm not transferring your money this month, you still haven't uploaded your receipts etc)

GreenGoblin0 Thu 24-Aug-17 09:00:06

sorry but I think this is a terrible idea. the whole idea of it as actually irritated me!

GreenGoblin0 Thu 24-Aug-17 10:55:16

it's a terrible idea for so many reasons..where to begin..

fundamentally separated parents who are on even superficially amicable terms don't need an app to communicate with each other. Parents who are at loggerheads with each other over who pays for what and over who sees the child when will not have their problems solved by an app on their phone.

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