Please support me I'm falling apart....
Ok the whole story is a really very very long story. But I'll try and summarise as briefly as possible.
Been a single mum since Feb 2016 when I discovered the love of my life and my daughter's very hands-on, doting father had in fact been with someone new (seriously UHHHHGLY! Bitchy yes, but honestly - awful she is. In looks and attitude). I was devastated. Things hadn't been perfect circumstantially. Without going into detail, he had been living back at his parents house 70 miles away, (because of some logistics at this end and I'd only just got the new house but he still had his old job there etc etc) and it had made being together difficult but we had been getting back on track and really happy with each other. Or so I thought.
Well I found out via Facebook whilst I was on the phone to him making plans for our holiday and talking dirty etc as I do! He hung up when I said her name out loud. Then immediately text & asked me why I was 'stalking his girlfriend' so within 30 seconds we'd gone from 'Love you' to 'Why are you stalking my girlfriend....?' He had been sleeping with us both.....
I was a huge mess. He didn't speak to me at all for 10 days. I didn't eat for over a week. Contact between us since has been via phone and apart from the 2 x 3 hour chats we had last year that both ended as abusive & threatening. He hasn't seen our daughter since either. I've had horrific things said to me and about me by this bitch and by him. Things like "Don't worry (daughter's name) will be with her real Mummy (his new ugly homewrecker) soon. That one fucking destroyed my soul..... And Facebook statuses (that he didn't know I could see - shown to me via a friend) saying how the mistakes he's made, including (our daughter) were all worth it just for them to find each other... 😢😢😢😢😢 When I saw that one I overdosed on a mystifying level. It being a mystery I'm still here. (Daughter was with my mum). I felt my heart shatter into a million pieces.
Also Facebook messages from homewrecking bitch's friend telling me not to bother contacting ex (I wasn't ) as HB (homewrecking bitch) doesn't give a shot about me or my 'child' and she want him seeing DD. That she has succeeded so far in keeping him away from us and that I was to give up??
Recently, his parents have ghosted us too. They haven't seen her since before he last did, but his mum used to always remain in contact. In fact we were very friendly at one point. She used to agree totally with how messed up his actions have been. Then all of a sudden - GONE! They're ALL gone. Even changed their house phone number and all of their mobile numbers, even my ex's number. So if anything happened to DD god forbid, I couldn't inform them even if they deserved to be informed which I know it doesn't seem like they do right now...or that they'd even care. I just don't get it.... He used to adore her every smile/giggle everything about her. He was wrapped around her little finger. And here we are, with him not having seen her in 18 months?
I cannot fathom this still. Even now. And neither can my daughter. She still stands at the window saying "Where Daddy gone?" "Daddy, where arrrrrre youuuuuuuu?"
What has upset me so much today, is that I have discovered that as we speak, he is in Prague! A week after finding out that bitch had taken him to VEGAS last year!
Today, I had sent him a copy of the arrears statement for CMS (of course he's in arrears, despite attachment of earnings order, he still owes money from before the order) and my email account tells me the city location and device used when the recipient reads their email. And yes, I know it's not always accurate but I double checked the IP given and it's a static IP in a Hotel in Prague 😢 I know I'm going to get a few people saying it's none of my business where he goes etc and yes I get that. However I am still entitled to be upset, that given he isn't paying ANY maintenance right now (CMS dragging heels setting up new Attachment of Earnings Order, however they have 'advised' him to make interim payments to me, which of course he hasn't done!!!) and instead of paying this, when I am sat here not having a clue how I'm going to feed my daughter for the rest of this week, her FATHER is on holiday in Prague!!!!!!!!! It's the god damned injustice of it!!!! I'm laying awake every night worrying about losing the house and spending my days shattered, dealing with my debilitating disabilities and an angry 2yr old with AN, pulling my hair out with upset & anger, whilst he lives the life of luxury? When I am only in this situation alone, BECAUSE of his actions. And lack of responsibility towards his daughter...
And yes, I am still hurt. I'm still heartbroken... I only have one friend. She got married yesterday so I cannot talk to her about this. I wouldn't. She deserves to bask in her happiness right now. I refuse to put her on any kind of downer.
I'm just so upset, I cannot breathe...
Anyway, so sorry for long post. There's so so much to this. I hope I haven't missed anything out. I apologise if I end up drip feeding! Please please be kind....
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JustDontGetItAtAll · 03/07/2017 01:06
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