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user1498308871 Sat 24-Jun-17 14:10:44

I am just wanting some advice please,

My son is 2.5 years old and still on demand breast fed, he has always been a very small baby classes as premature and then has had very poor weight gain since - he is under dietation and allergy specialist for assistance with diet.

And I have be told to carry on breasting feed day and night to ensure my little boy gets the right amount of calcium.

I also cut unsafe foods out of my diet.

We co sleep and little boy wakes constantly throughout the night and feed a lot.

Father has always been given access and all his family too. Always made my home welcoming for them to visit lo 2 times a week which is never rarely met as they don't attend.

Fathers mood changes per visit one time he is happy the next he is not and this affect baby who wants to go out for reassurance and feeding.

He is fed once or twice on each visit.

Father doesn't really interact instead throws balls at him to get his attention or shakes his keys almost like lo is a dog.

He spent at least 20 weeks not visiting when he became verbally aggressive towards me whilst at my home.

He is very unreliable and doesn't really take interests in my sons allergies.

But 1 week ago he said he wouldn't be coming to visit my son anymore until he can take him on his own and would be seeking legal advice.

I want to know we're I stand please and if anyone has had a legal court case involving child with allergys and ex tended breast feeding.

As I said father has never been Denided access and chose when he can come sometimes just not turning up or texting at the last minute and I have never caused a fuss.

Thank you x

user1487854472 Sat 24-Jun-17 18:47:15

Have you kept a diary of the times he's been offered contact, but hasn't shown? If not, start doing this asap. The more proof you can pull together the better.

You will also be asked to go to mediation prior to court. It is advised that you come to an arrangement between the two of you, so you can put across your views then. Is there any particular reason why you have to supervise contact? Are there safety concerns?

Starlight2345 Sat 24-Jun-17 19:25:52

At 2.5 I would be suprised if the courts took it into account in the day. Can you express ( i know not everyone can)

I think that you might find a plan of how to move forward in a plan where he can have more unsupervised would be possible.

I agree though with pp ..Document every time he fails to turn up.

jacketej Sat 24-Jun-17 20:38:11

Id imagine he will more than likely be given over night access at court as there really isn't any reason why not.
I appreciate he is little and needs calcium but this can be obtained via cows milk and the other sources of calcium.

I'd try and come to some agreement prior to court, I can sympathise with the situation but appreciate that he wants time with his son away from you.

Give it a year and a half your little could be potentially be going to school?

user1498308871 Sat 24-Jun-17 21:07:40

Hi little one has a dairy allergy so is unable to have cows milk or any other formula - I am on a strict no dairy diet also to ensure child can have breast milk.

user1487854472 Sun 25-Jun-17 10:04:08

Diary free alternatives for a day whilst he's with his dad isn't going to hurt. I.e. Coconut milk, almond milk, soya milk. To say that he can't spend time alone with his dad due to a dairy allergy is ridiculous, there are lots of children with dairy allergies. Do you have any genuine safety concerns with this father?

CrazedZombie Sun 25-Jun-17 13:48:45

Would your nutritionist go on record for court and say your son must be breastfed for each drink? My guess is that they'll say it wouldn't harm your son to have some drinks offered by cup.
You can get dairy free formula and there are lots of dairy free milk alternatives. It would be hard to argue dad's disinterest in his allergy. He could say that he will learn if he has to feed his son and he hasn't taken interest because you control food and drink.

Nor would the sleeping issues affect things. While dad may not co-sleep, he could soothe your son when he woke.

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