Will I be alone forever??(7 Posts)
Does anyone else feel like they've been put up on a shelf. I feel like I'm never going to meet anyone. I love my son so much and obviously his happiness comes first but I feel like no one wants me now I'm a mummy. I just want to find someone who I have that amazing connection with. I miss that feeling, it's been so so long.
I had a bad experience with a guy nearly 3 years ago and have only been with two guys since then, once in March for two months and one 2 years ago for one month in the September.
I rarely go out anymore, mainly because all my friends are in relationships and have kids of their own. I've very little confidence, hate what I see in the mirror and I'm suffering with anxiety and depression. Also I always tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and let anyone with a slight interest walk/stamp all over it. 😔😔
Because I have depression, I've been told by my counsellor that I shouldn't try get into a relationship, as it won't work out. Does that mean I should be lonely and miserable until I somehow manage to fight the depression? I'm also not working, but hopefully with my son starting primary school in September, I want to look for part time work again.
I also feel like I'll be alone forever and when I'm scrolling through social media sites, it makes me more sad and depressed when I see friends and family planning weddings, holidays etc with their partners and kids.
It feels like, when do I get to do that and love someone again and have someone love me back. I have a lot of empathy for people and try and help as much as I can, but sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough or I don't deserve to be loved.
Have you tried dating sites before? I have, and I've met some nice guys, but also met some/chatted to some creeps so its like a catch 22 situation. Sorry for the rant.
Same. DD is 7. Been on my own for 4 years since I left exh, apart from 2 short relationships and a couple of online dates.
However, DD has a number of issues with her Dad and really bad separation anxiety with me which means that she hasn't slept out anywhere for 18months. Even getting a couple of hours during the day to myself at wknds is almost impossible.
So, I think I will be alone forever. DD will probably get over her anxiety and move out but I'll be in my late 40s by then..... joyous thoughts for a Friday night
Me I am 5 years down the line and I feel like it will never happen. It would be nice to feel something again
I'm 37 and recently split from DDs mum.
I'm dreading getting back in 'The game' but I don't want to be alone forever. I love being a dad, I love my daughter to the stars but its not the same as having someone to watch OITNB with and having a cuddle.
I have been single for 6 years. I feel quite happy about it.
When I hear about my friends complaining about their partners or having to check with someone else for plans I feel a bit sorry for them. I wasn't in an abusive relationship but it ended badly not what I wanted at the time. But I feel liberated never knowing was constrained to begin with.
Yes I much prefer the single life. I wouldn't be surprised if I remain single for a good long time it has many many advantages and is rarely understood. I am just amazed more people don't try it!
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