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I dread the weekends.

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midnightswirls Sat 20-May-17 11:03:48

Feeling so upset right now. I dread the weekends I have my son I don't know what to do with him ( he's 11 months) and just going out on a weekend by myself makes me feel so alone. Seeing all the families together is hard. My parents very rarely go out and do things with us. My sister is busy with her partner. Friends are doing things with their partners. I mean my son seems happy and obviously that's all I want but just upsets me being a single parent at the weekend. Any tips to get through it and maybe what kind of things to do with my son?

totallyrandom Sat 20-May-17 11:15:14

Sorry OP that you are feeling lonely. I think in your position I would still go out and do something nice with your baby (even if seeing other families is a bit difficult). Very soon your baby will be a lot more interactive and your best friend and you will have lots of fun together. I think if you plan and structure your weekend it may be much easier. The other thing to do is to find people in a similar position to you to hang out with. There must be some lone parents around with a baby.

midnightswirls Sat 20-May-17 11:52:07

Thank you. I don't know of any lone parents around me. I've just moved to a small village and I wouldn't say I'm really young but I'm always the youngest when i go to baby groups during the week. Makes it a bit harder.

user1487854472 Sat 20-May-17 13:44:36

I could have written this myself, except I have an 11 month old daughter lol. I know how hard it is and don't really know how to get myself out of this rut. I'll be following this thread xx

itshappenedagain Sat 20-May-17 13:51:40

I know how you feel. Been a single Mum for 7 years, I used to dread the weekend when they were small. As they've got older it has become easier as they are more interested in things. I used to worry about seeing if friends wanted to do things at the weekends, but know I just ask and if people are having family time the worst they can say is no. Its taken time but I have a group of friend with dc similar ages but all married, who I spend time with, but also I like to spend time with just my dc.

midnightswirls Sat 20-May-17 17:29:39

Thanks for the advice. I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. We just went to the park for a bit. He seemed to enjoy it

123456789ten Sun 21-May-17 21:51:20

I remember those days. I found signing up for a swimming lesson on Saturday made a huge difference to my weekends. It's having something to get up and out the house for, try not too early a session otherwise you're home by 10 with the day stretching endlessly ahead. We usually follow it up with the library and the park and then when you get home, you feel you've had some human contact and staying in doesn't feel so terrible.

It does get easier as they get bigger. It used to torture me seeing families doing stuff together and it always being me and baby. Over the years, I've sort of got immune to it. My child is 5 now and though I still fall into the hideous weekend slump, we can have a conversation now and she's become company, though there are days when the conversation does melt my brain.

Hang on in there. It will get easier as your DS gets older. Once they are able to toddle round the playground, you can chat to other adults more. It's not easy but it makes you appreciate the little things that many of my friends seem to take for granted.

PollyPelargonium52 Sat 03-Jun-17 08:31:20

Over half the relationships out there aren't happy so I do not envy others for being in one whatsoever. There is a lot of overcompromising and making do needed in most cases.

Living in a small village won't help though op. I understand this quite well as I live in a small town and it is impossible to make new friends as for the most part everybody has friends from children and makes no effort for newcomers. Their loss. Since I am stuck here as I own my own home and hate renting there isn't much choice but to put up with it. Some more interesting women friends are surely going to roll up for me one day!

Yes weekends can be a killer esp. Sunday afternoons as ds is the age where he is largely in his room and I have caught up with shopping and chores by then.

Dates are a bit overrated too in my experience so I just try and enjoy some Sky TV and keep busy as best I can on a Sunday.

PollyPelargonium52 Sat 03-Jun-17 08:32:04

Sorry op I meant to type everybody has friends from childhood here it is very insular.

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