Not sure what I'm after here really, I've kind of come to the point where I feel like I just need to accept "it is what it is" and get on with it as best I can, however that's really not very well currently so if anyone can offer any practical advice / support / a grip then that'd be great...
Long story short STBXH left suddenly a few months ago, soon became apparent there was an OW, with whom he is now living, approximately 90 minutes from DC and I.
Due to logistics and his work schedule (often away / out of the country) it's difficult for X to see DS during the week and so since he left he's had DS practically every weekend (bar a couple where he's been otherwise engaged with OW) from after school on Friday to Sunday mid-afternoon.
I'm finding this really hard. Despite my feelings towards X I will always endeavour to support his relationship with DS and it goes without saying that DS is top priority in all this.
But...I am seriously struggling with the injustice of it all. X walks out but sweeps in at the weekend, the absolute epitome of Disney Dad, and takes DS to do XY or Z fun thing, meanwhile during the week I'm the one nagging DCs to get up / go to bed, school run, homework, tidying rooms and general monotonous routine. By the time I get home from work, walk dogs make dinner etc etc there's very little scope for actual quality time Ultimately I feel that although X is the one who left it'seems me who's being punished while he faces no consequences whatsoever, but I don't see a way of changing the current set up without a negative impact on DS.
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JohnnyMarr · 25/04/2017 11:31
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