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bloodyhugebloodymess Thu 23-Mar-17 11:54:58

The father of my baby twins is really into drugs. He smokes cannabis on a daily basis. Before I was pregnant he faithfully promised he would quit but I found messages where he was buying and smoking it again. This happened a few weeks ago. We separated when I was pregnant as I found some stuff that linked him to sexual abuse. He admitted this but deleted the evidence so all charges against him were dropped. Up until now he has been seeing the babies at my house but this is no longer working and he wants to see the babies alone at his parents house where he lives. But my question is, they are so small and I don't feel comfortable with this. What do I do?

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Thu 23-Mar-17 11:59:57

He doesn't sound an appropriate adult to have unsupervised contact. I would seek legal advice.

user1488397138 Thu 23-Mar-17 12:03:34

Mildly similar story here without sexual element but with prem twins.
Not comfortable with him coming to the house but absolutely no way was I letting him take them to his mothers (where he lived) she smoked 40 a day and had a large breed dog too.
I refused contact and few weeks later had a solicitor letter asking if i would take part in mediation. The result was he was offered 1 hour in a contact centre each week. After 8 weeks we agreed to 1 hour at his mothers (drop offs and pick ups at contact centre) each week on condition no dog present and no smoking.
He did it twice and now hasn't been seen or heard off for 17 years.
Oh and I was married and he had PR.

bloodyhugebloodymess Thu 23-Mar-17 12:48:29

My twins are prem also, with some health conditions. It's mad how he's making me out to be unreasonable. His family won't talk to me as I reported him and I do not want the babies leaving me.

Some men are simply pathetic

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